Chodes Night Out 2: Part 3; Lessons From The Worst Night Ever & The Ghost Of Jeffy.

The time is finally here to see what will happen to Timf Bhraowhn. Get the video all sorted out for some 720p resolution and let it load.

First, why would I make this video? I work as a pick up coach. I write this blog to serve the purpose of getting better at pick up and teaching you how to be better at pick up. Prior to creating this video (and Chodes Night Out Yo!) several problems reoccurred in student after student. I also felt as though I had some personal issues building up that I wanted to address.

I’d thought for a long time that a pickup parody video would help guys overcome their aforementioned reoccurring problems and help me to get a few things off my chest. Of course, the purpose of this video is to help. The purpose of this article is to teach you about how to learn game. Here’s how:

That won’t make much sense now, back to it in a second.

So here he is in all of his glory, Timf Bhraowhn from New Zealand ready for his big night out!

Check out part’s one and two for better continuity leading up to part three!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3QvJjVBLgwA

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4IUgH5NZAT4

 

Get the popcorn. Bring your girl in close. It’s movie time. Part 3.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zpoLaYJrxE4

Weeeeeeeeeeeeeell, there he is. He came, he bought trinkets and… he threw the TV out of the window. What other outcome could suffice?

The most important purpose of creating this video is to address the crippling bullshit behavioural dynamic of “playing to not lose”.

There are a couple of massive issues to be overcome to consistently turn cold approaches into intimate trysts; approach anxiety and playing to not lose. This video addresses both issues, but was scripted with the intention of overcoming playing to not lose.

In short, this video shoves proof in your face that there’s nothing to be afraid of. Go.

There are a couple of reasons why guys get the stupid pickup headspace of “plying to not lose”. If you have been a chode all your life, you start to approach, you start to get some results and you start to even sleep with some girls. Those few new results are the most precious and important thing in the world. You remember the horribly painful self hating times old times of loserism and you don’t want to do anything that risks regression. Playing to win at the risk of losing your newfound ego of success conjures fear like suicide. This pattern has you becoming ‘ego defensive’, causing you to clamp self limitations to your initiatives, expressions and persistence in the set.

It’s like a loser gets to some strange threshold of success that trips the “shit I don’t want to lose what I’ve come this far to get” and loser just shuts down. Not only that, but the game stop being fun, being social stops being fun and loser stops being fun. The results stop, the frustration starts, some self destructive behaviours can occur and in the worst case you start to project your internal frustration outwards in the form of aggression.

I’ve been through this myself and I’ve seen it in RSD assistants and HUNDREDS of times in the students I’ve coached. The biggest prevalence is seen in the guys who never truly get into the pickup community. They come and go just as the text above has foretold.

Hence the video of Timf.

I’ve coached hundreds of students to overcome this dynamic. The variable that brings them back to the fun-filled world of playing to win is ‘blowouts’, or seeing someone else get ‘blown out’ in a funny way. If they see someone get ‘blown out’ in a serious way it can make the ‘play to not lose’ disease worse. From my point of view there is no place for the terminology ‘blow out’ in your paradigm (inner game) of perception of the social world. When a guy is desperately choding on the ‘play to not lose’ plateau seeing what could be considered a funny ‘blow out’ is the jolt that resuscitates him from the emotionally shut down state and back to emotional life.

Side note: If you do this be silly (light hearted/playful) not negative. Play a character, use a silly voice, do the interaction as though you have an absurd or different job than you actually do. Do it with your wings, the bigger your influence the bigger the arousal.

What the plateau guy sees as a funny ‘blow out’ it’s actually something else that I want to interpret for you. That incidence is actually his own experience or the experience of witnessing someone else interacting with girls without taking them too seriously, or people for that matter (in a social context).

A million times on Bootcamp I’ve had to demonstrate not to take the social world too seriously to get a student out of his plateau. Sometimes it’s simply to get a student outside his head. I’m sure that I’ll have to deliberately jolt myself out of taking the social world too seriously many, many more times in the future. I KNOW that every week I demonstrate this for the students’ sake both in field and with this video.

One little demonstration of NOT TAKING THE SOCIAL WORLD TOO SERIOUSLY is the Achilles heel of social conditioning. It all comes crashing down and your expression and actions come from a place of influence not stifling.

In that vague sense this video is incredibly helpful. After watching the adventures of Timf I can guarantee that you hold less stress toward social interaction than you did before. You might not know why, but that doesn’t matter. If you are the player in the game you want the coach to give you whatever you need to cause the effect you want.

It goes deeper than the vague sense that this video is somehow helpful.

For coaching it’s absolutely disastrous to only share the videos and stories where we successfully got the girl. What do you think a lopsided perspective does to the student, or anyone less experienced than an RSD executive coach? It shows an unbalanced sample of reality that is beyond the emotional limits and neural pathways that that a student is capable of replicating straight away.

Side note: Sure it’s good to show the pinnacle of what’s possible to lead the pathway to success. But it must be balances to avoid a topple effect.

Side note: If you met Myself, Brad-, Tyler or Jeffy you would realise that we don’t take anything seriously. Socially it’s pure kindergarten behaviour. For business we must present a professional image because that’s business, but we’d love to just be ourselves. Sometimes I think that our true selves could offer more value as a ‘living example of congruence’ perspective, but I know that our ways might be too far outside some student’s realities. Our real skill is the translation of frames, empathy and patience. For that I am very proud of what we do.

When I have a video session on Bootcamp or other RSD staff show videos on their Hotseats a combination of successful and unsuccessful pickups are shown. Successful demonstration instances and ideas for students t learn new idea and see witness our reality for. Teaching and showing the successful experiences is called expanding your positive (successful/get the girl/good social skills/good game) reality.

For an instructor to have an ability to have and show that many “unbelievable”- quoting Hotseat and RSD World Summit testimonials – videos is surreal. The things that caused us to get to that level that we don’t show during video presentations are the hundreds of nights out, hard social lessons and life lessons that gave us leverage to want to get so good.

It would actually be massively beneficial to see videos of instances of real life leverage that compelled us to grow into what we are today. That’s not plausible so Timf Bhraowhn’s little adventure can be that example that resonates with everyone’s inner chode that they may have blindspotted out of their consciousness. In looking at the chode it bring back the self reflection, removal of the blindspot and with that your leverage to take your social potential as far as it can go.

When you read Jeffy’s book 9ball you see the source of his leverage as he relives his past. As you read his book you relate to it personally as that is the nature of reading. Everyone has their own leverage, their own reasons for wanting to transform into something better.

Let your personal ‘lowest point in history’ be your leverage to get the most out of your social life. Don’t let fear of regression to the ‘lowest point in history’ cause the “playing not to lose” disease. Interpret your new found social know-how as glass-half-full, be thankful that you have come from nothing and become something, and attempt to take it further. Don’t think that the glass is half empty and that you stand to risk losing what you have obtained so far.

After all, metaphorically, there are not holes in a glass. Anything you do under the paradigm of “I am enough” serves as experiences that help you to grow. Victories and lessons are both progress. What you call a ‘good night’ is equivalent in progress to what you call a ‘bad night’ they’re both experience for growth.

Enter Timf Bhroaowhn. On a deeper level he is like the icon of everyone’s ‘worst point in history.’ Possibly some kind of pickup community Jesus that has choded for you to resolve you of your chodiness? Maybe not – I don’t know much about religion, but I do understand the message.

If you have slipped into the scarcity mindset of “playing to not lose” the visions of Timf remind you not to take yourself too seriously. Timf Bhraowhn is a parody the self that you are scared of being. The self that you are scared of regressing to is actually a joke.

Your fears are a joke. Socially this is 100% true – www.alexattitude.com has tested it. www.alexattitude.com has videos to verify the findings.

Alchemy is the process of turning worthless metals into gold. If you can turn your fears into jokes then your social ability, status and potential influence becomes limitless.

That is the purpose of Timf Bhroawhn, to reframe that which holds you back into that which sets you free from fear of loss.

Going deeper again think of Timf Bhraowhn from my perspective. I know the holy grail of good game is Relaxed Arousal; to be so at ease in the environment that I am totally operating under my own will, and no-one else’s. If I’m not doing anything in accordance with other people’s standards (not out to impress and not caught up defending myself) then I am bored, I’m not under anyone’s command or living in reaction so I’m static. When I’m bored I remember that only my initiatives will amuse me and make me feel good. I remember that I can’t rely on anyone else to amuse me or make me feel good, including ‘scoring chicks’. The amusement that I cultivate in myself becomes stimulation to others around me, they become aroused and this is the process of attraction.

Let this be your inner game process as well.

After so many hundreds of nights out I have become bored by the bar scene itself. It’s what I do in the bar that conquers the boredom. Making a video like Chodes Night Out 2 is another great way to amuse myself and share that with others. On this blog I hope sharing a video that has been spawned from utter indifference to the bar itself is an example that eventually you too will be indifferent.

Think about it. While you are worried about which opener to use, concerned about how to make a good impression or concerned about making a bad impression we creating characters and video’s of just how much a joke the social scene is. Let me, and the guys who helped make this video, share with you our Relaxed Arousal reality that you can really express yourself however you want to.

Side note: Mind you, I didn’t write the lines. The things that Timf Bhraowhn says to the girls are totally his own spur of the moment ideas. My only advice to him was to have the worst game possible. When I later sat down to edit the video and actually listened to the audio I could barely concentrate through violent laughter at the ABSURD things he’d said to the unsuspecting girls he’d approached.

For you, this video aims to shift your limiting belief to an empowering belief by converting your fear of failure into indifference to failure. From my perspective I want to share with you the Relaxed Arousal attitude that I have towards social situations to help diffuse it into your psychology to help you come into congruence with the Relaxed Arousal baseline disposition.

I’d like to draw your attention towards other specific interactions and learning dynamics in the video.

Learning about the game from Real Social Dynamics you look to transform from chode to naturally attractive guy. These two types of guys sit at opposite ends of the anxiety scale (but more accurately one guy is much more mature than the other, it’s a one way continuum not a balancing scale). Girls are naturally and biologically attracted to guys with minimal social anxiety, whereas they are not at all attracted to guys with high social anxiety (impression making/social defensiveness/approach anxiety). Social anxiety comes from social conditioning. If you don’t know any better and end up as a chode in life then it becomes reinforced when the people you interact with reinforce it in you. If you are attractive in life (good parenting/upbringing/genetics) then that is reinforced when you interact with people.

Side Note: This is ego and self esteem science, a deep and interesting topic but more mental masturbation than directly applicable; content for die hard devotees to social dynamics.

If you are a chode, to become a natural, you need to desensitize yourself to causes of social anxiety until you have no social anxiety at all. Transformation comes through experience (exposure/endurance) of your sources of anxiety until one by one they fade away, including intermittent reality snap backs.

Positive anxiety comes from pushing your positive comfort zone when you do unfamiliar positive things like talk to hot girls that make you excited and nervous. Negative anxiety comes from fear of loss, embarrassment or not meeting the expectations of impressions you think you want to make on people.

Side note: Negative anxiety is all in your head, merely as a result of social conditioning, being mislead to think what other people have told you is true.

If you push into those new good experiences you dissolve the positive anxiety that you formerly had. I guess the positive anxiety we talk about here is EXACTLY the same as the anxiety you have towards success barriers. Don’t be afraid of success experiences, once you have them they’re not that scary. It is very important to acknowledge the times when you have new positive experiences and give yourself credit for growth, if you don’t you’ll only consider good new experiences as ‘good luck’ and not your own growth, keeping you in the same headspace as you were to begin with.

Just like a muscle, when you go out and push your experience to a new level what was once ‘outside your comfort zone’ is now something you are familiar with (within your comfort zone). Just like in the gym, you train your experience by pushing on resistance, once have overcome something that formerly caused you stress it’s now a part of your comfort zone and stress is not associated with the same thing anymore. You convert something that caused you anxiety into something that doesn’t. Stress to comfort. You have less anxiety, you are more naturally attractive.

It works the same way with the ‘negative comfort zone’. New ‘negative’ experiences are quickly reinterpreted for what they actually are, a joke. Many guys get approach fear. Fear of what? A blow out? Something unpredictable happening? Reading this objectively you can see how it is a joke, rendering the anxiety caused by the negative comfort zone null allowing you to act freely.

My advice would be explore your positive comfort zone, convert your negative comfort zone into humour, acknowledge your victories and your lessons and play to win. This is how you accelerate your congruence from the socially conditioned chode you came to us as and become a natural who no longer needs, but still enjoys, Real Social Dynamics as your expert consultant.

In your words, that’s how you ‘learn’ game.

Timf Bhraowhn was conceived for this reason. To convert your anxiety of ‘doing something wrong’ into a joke. To parody you, each and every reader (including me), individually and help you to come to the conclusion that the things you take too seriously are actually no cause for anxiety at all. My goal as the distributer of these ideas is to remove your negative limiting beliefs so your positive comfort zone can grow as well.

And that is what the graph is all about.

Your positive and negative comfort zones live in equilibrium. One keeps the other in check. Remove one limitation and you remove the other. If you suddenly inherent millions of dollars (positive) you are now exposed to a lot more fear of loss (negative). If you go through life being repeatedly unlucky (negative) you develop an ‘underdog’ mindset that gives you leverage that others don’t (positive) that motivates you to go on and be successful.

If there isn’t a balance between your positive and negative realities and you identify with one side or the other of the experience continuum you develop and ego and become out of touch with reality, for example, the ‘millionaire asshole’ stereotype or the ‘loser victim’ stereotype.

I could talk about this a lot more, but the point of this article is to explain how the process of ‘getting good’ works, the importance of converting limiting beliefs into freedom from stifling and to acknowledge good and bad experiences as the rungs on the ladder of transformation.

In light of these lessons about psychology I want to make reference to some real life instances that happened in this video. If you are a newbie and you are scared of your approaches watch all the parts of this video and realise there really is nothing to be afraid of therefore you can approach yourself. The only thing to be concerned about is your own lack of ability to think for yourself in the moment. Cold approach training is what this focuses on. Being able to think for yourself in the moment is what makes a guy attractive being a guy who can’t do it yet is not attractive. Cold approach is your training to alpha male style thoughts.

He does the worst approaches ever (on the level of can’t get much worse with in legal limits) and its fine. You might argue that our guy Timf Bhraowhn has some good game underneath all those trinkets. No, at the time of recording he didn’t have very good game at all and was a great actor for the role. Since then he has come a long way and recently hooked up with some stunning girls.

Side Note: The guy’s a friend of mine from Malmo in southern Sweden, his name’s “Erik V” I don’t think you will find him on facebook or anything like that, but he does have an account on RSD nation as Timf Bhraowhn.

If you have seen a hotseat I want you to observe that the girls have the same kind of first initial reaction to Timf Bhraowhn as they do to Myself, Tyler and Jeffy, when we approach. Let me explain. A girl could give you any random reaction at any time. Throughout all the approaches Timf Bhroawhn just gets a range of unpredictable reactions. All the approaches I do I get a range of unpredictable reactions. So does everyone really. The social world and the variations of people are unpredictable.

Make it a fixed variable in your mind that ‘no amount of planning can account for your approaches’. Focusing on openers is a waste of time and leads you to become obsessed with futile impression dynamics.

ONCE AND FOR ALL make the shift towards the second natural instincts method skill “It’s not what you do, it’s what you deal with that makes you good” to paraphrase “Endure Tests.”

This is infield footage. We can learn real lessons about the field even if it’s not an RSD instructor navigating it. What can we learn for sure about the field here? People are introverted and nervous – if you want to start an interaction out of thin air you need to take all responsibility to make them comfortable with you. You are more likely unfamiliar to them than ‘bad at game’.

There is a great scene where the girl says “shut the fuck up” (Part 1) and with a very small degree of persistence by Timf Bhraowhn she stops being so bitchy. People’s first behavioural projection is wayyyyyyyyyyyy off what they actually are. Go into any interaction expecting that you won’t meet the real person until much deeper into the interaction. That fact itself it’s a great motivation besides sex to go deeper into a seemingly boring interaction, its interesting and you never know what you’re going to find. Everybody has some kind of story to tell once you get to know them, guy or girl. The longer the set, the better you get to know a girl the better the emotional connection (rapport) the closer you to get intimacy.

We see that Timf Bhraowhn actually does ok some of the time. Opens the set fine, has a chat and can make the girls comfortable with him. This probably means that some people are cool with giving anyone a chance. Granted, Timf Bhraowhn is a novelty just like a clown and it might just be that he’s entertaining for a short period of time. For the purposes of science I wanted to minimalise the ‘interesting clown’ effect as much as possible so I rubbed a dead fish on his shirts and wig and had him use olive oil for hair gel turning him into a true GREASY WEIRDO. Some people still reacted receptively to greasy fish smell weirdo anyway.

By the way, how the fuck can he get into clubs looking and smelling like this?

Overall the biggest conclusion is that people in the field are just durrrrr. They’re passive comfort-zone dwellers. Embrace that fact and work with it. Have empathy for the people you approach, click with them, then once you understand each other go in a direct that both you and the new person like. I don’t ever want to hear about a guy leaving the set because the ‘girl was boring’. Get used to it, she doesn’t study emotional strengthening and social dynamics like you do.

Another indication of this is when Timf Bhraowhn trips on the gutter and falls on his face. The people just GO AROUND HIM. What the fuck? If anyone ever fell violently nearby you’d think someone would see if he was ok. In that instance the people just diverted around him. I like the other case when Timf comes out of the bar crying and talks to the girl outside on the bench. Even though Timf is sobbing and crying she leaves him to ‘have a good night’ spluttering alone on the street. Thanks for the well-wishes bitch, leaving him there in the gutter doesn’t sit well with your advice of ‘have a good night’.

Maybe the reason no one wanted to help him out wasn’t because of their ‘durr state’ but actually because he was wearing an Ed Hardy T-Shirt and arm sleeve. I know people are aren’t average durr thinkers that would avoid a squid in and Ed Hardy shirt whatever the circumstance.

When Timf gets home from his worst night ever he sits down defeated. In his role he ‘blames the game’, this is a reflection of so many guys failing to man up and take responsibility for themselves by displacing their short comings upon others. It’s like “Tyler, Alexander~ and Jeffy said I would get girls if I did this, well it didn’t work so fuck them and fuck them game, I hate them, I’m a victim.” Being in the position of ‘game authority’ it makes it easy for haters to hate as soon as they fail. Once you come into massive influence (head of the family, boss of the company, leader of the team, financially responsible) you know that even though people hate you it’s your responsibility to help them overcome it. This realisation and subsequent action is the path to infinite potential. The opposite would be to engage and ‘hate the haters back’. They can’t help it, they don’t know any better. If you are following leaders let them help you, if something isn’t working seek to understand them better.

Lesson is, next time you have a shit night don’t blame the game, credit yourself. Take the experience and learn from it. Let it lead to growth, not solidify the chode identity (ego).

Before I wrap up this article I want to add a few production notes out of interest.

The story of the Ghost of Jeffy. When Timf Bhraowhn stands there saying “ghost of Jeffy, ghost of Jeffy” it’s in reference to a guy I had on a Europe Bootcamp in 2008 who gave me cause to see a psychologist after meeting him. I was running the bootcamp as per normal, everyone was having a great time, I was lording the girls in a way that they can only be lorded in Finland. Two out of the three students were making mad progress. The third guy was freaking people out by licking them and stroking them and asphyxiating them with his body odour. No big deal, I go through the steps to address these things by making corrections and working with him on the blindspots. Regardless of my patience they guy simply blamed me for everything wrong in his world. While I can see he is getting better, going from ‘no-hope in hell’ status to ‘ok we have something to work with’ status he continues to tell me that my demonstrations don’t teach him anything and that my instructions – which he’s not following – are not helping him. So at the end of program that night I take him away, brief him and get him ready for the next day. He goes away positive and excited and very complimentary towards my demonstrations and coaching. A few hours later back at the hotel I get a call from RSD headquarters telling me that the same guy was dissatisfied with the program, AFTER he had lied to my face. I take it in my stride and continue with Bootcamp the next day. It’s just as hard going that night as the night before, none-the-less I am making progress with him even if he actively refuses to acknowledge it. I am a very positive guy but after two days of fucking loser talk, dark spirits singing evil hymns, deliberate attempts to bring the entire program down and repeated accusations of incompetency I’m getting stressed, especially when there are so many gorgeous gorgeous girls around. He comes to me sometime late on the second night and says, in a deadly serious voice (maybe parseltounge)…

“Alex~, when I am infield on my own I go out every night and I pull a model home to have sex in my bed. The reason why I can do this is because I have the ghost of Jeffy there with me, blue like O B Wan Kenobi say he says to me” he drops to a whisper, “‘pull, pull’ and then I pull by the guidance of the ghost of Jeffy. But Alex~ when you are here with me saying ‘pull, pull’ it is like you are not there guiding me like my “Jedi master.”

I say nothing for a moment, I’m pure disbelief at what I just heard.

“You are aware that I’m standing right here next to you?” He replies.

“Yes, but you are not the Ghost of Jeffy.”

And with that I simply had to finish his program, call up special agents Scully and Mulder to help him recover his ‘Ghost of Jeffy’. I’ve seen a lot of EXTREMELY strange things in the pickup community, and this one freaked me out the most. For weeks afterwards I had dreams of the same guy living under my bed in a dark box whispering to me, creeping me out and waking me in my sleep. So I eventually went to see a shrink about it. Haha, you never know what’s going to happen on Bootcamp.

So, the ode to the Ghost of Jeffy in Chodes Night Out 2 is a historic tribute to the weirdest thing I’ve come across so far.

Throwing the TV out the Window. Jeffy used to tell a story of a time when he was first learning about the game. One night he had a worse than expected night and came home furious because he’d cleaned his house ready to bring a girl home, and there he was, clean house and no girl. In his anger he took a TV and threw it out the window of his house onto the footpath. This is a classic old school RSD tale. We had an old TV where we lived so we thought we’d pay tribute to the great Jeffy and publically symbolically smash everyone’s anger toward bad nights. We’ve all had times where self dissatisfaction has pissed us off. Let Timf Bhraowhn destroy his property, so you can save yours.

It was pretty cool to smash the TV by the way. Made an awesome noise.

Timf Bhraowhn’s Costumes. I was running bootcamp in Amsterdam the week before we started shooting chodes night out 2. I had a vision of a guy so creepy and so funny that orange face paint and flashing LED accessories would be all that could be seen of him in the dark of the club. Amsterdam was the perfect place to buy all that kind of crap so I stocked up and put it all together. The scene where he walks up the stairs on his own with the X files music playing in the back ground was exactly how many girls perceived him. Call the alien squad.

A list of actions that Timf Bhroawhn actually did. He licked a girls face, opened sets by asking for a blow job, confronted people he didn’t know an accused them of being gay, stoped and smelled people’s hair, licked girls on the neck, sobbed over his lost “biggest girl of 180 kilos”, got himself into a fight in the street by telling random guys that he could “take the best girls ever”, licked an ice cream and likened it to the milk from a human woman’s breasts. Still no harm came to him. Do not take this as an incentive to try this for yourself, he got away with it somehow. Be fascinated by it, not impressed. There is a difference between respecting someone for being ballsy and just being fascinated by strangeness.

Timf Bhraowhn’s Resolution. There is so much bullshit material on “how to get girl” out there, I’m amazed. Just like Timf Bhraowhn people spend a small amount of time infield, fail and then decide they are going to start to solicit advice to give them any sense of importance they can scrounge together. Even worse are ‘wannabes’ trying to profit from their bullshit. What happens is people check out their stuff, have an experience that is unprofessional and unhelpful and conclude that “it was stupid of me to think that people can actually help me with this” and go back to their surrendered little lives never digging deep enough to find out about RSD. Sadly, this kind of bullshit can divert guys from coming across the proper resources that can actually really help them. The point is, be wise about who you decide to learn from. Unless the coaches have taught and demonstrated live in field for the past 5 years, and have the videos to prove it, you are following a secondary source. I do think his costume during his little seminar is an accurate and funny reflection of the attire worn by people who self-declare themselves experts.

In Conclusion to the Chodes Night Out 2 Movie

In seeing this movie I want you to take the pressure off yourself and remember that imperfection is funny, not stifling. Remember that for you to grow positively you also have to ‘expand negatively’ which means embracing the things you think are bad and convert them into funny. Have reality checks from time to time and remember that whatever you do in pick up and self help you CAN’T NOT be moving you forward and growing you into congruence with “I am enough”.

I want to plant one last massively powerful idea that somehow messily concludes everything from this article and this video. The night is as good as you perceive it. If you never want to have a ‘bad night’ again don’t take the good nights too seriously either. I mean, once “you are enough” and you get to the stage where your original goal of ‘being good with girls’ has been obtained having a good night is no big deal right. The most important thing about that fact is that you stop getting pumped up over good night which has the same balance effect as the experience continuum represents, that is you stop getting down over what you speculate to be a bad night. Your bad nights are now actually funny nights that don’t ‘bruise your ego’ at all. In short the ‘good’ and the ‘bad’ are all part of the same thing. How can you call one night a bad night if you can’t call another night a good night? This expansion of reality leads you to the internally centred RELAXED AROUSAL rock solid frame.

It leads to “there is no reason why I’m not enough” – the key to all natural game.

Any ideas or questions ask myself or Timf Bhroawhn in the comments. If it made you laugh tell us so we can expand in the (potentially) next video.

Alexander~

PS! If any one of these three Chodes Night Out 2 videos gets to 25,000 views before the 1^st of January then I will set out and make Chodes Night Three. The idea for chodes night three is based off the video of the ginger kid or was made famous for the video “Gingers have souls”. There would be a couple of redhead guys going out on ok cupid dates and day game doing their chode stuff for our amusement. They’ll also have an Indian guy to play their Van Wilder type sidekick. From my point of view it would be funny because I have four guys here in Sydney, Brisbane and Melbourne who have Red Hair and are amazing with girls. Something about possessing red hair makes guys good with girls? Tyler himself has red hair and is one of the best. The guy I’ve seen who I think is the best at cold approach pick up is someone called “B” a mysterious friend of Derrick’s who is godlike, and way beyond any of us with his cold approach skills. I’d love to spend more time with him, I hope to next time I’m in the northern hemisphere and relay what I learn. I’ve had so many ideas come up since the creation of Chodes Night Out 1 and 2 that I have a script and a shooting/editing/subtitling process already in place. A small part of me wanted to make Chodes Night Out 2 as a light hearted way to draw non-community people to the RSD youtube channels. Many of us have friends who we’d love to get into learning more about the game for their sake and our own. Sharing something funny like Chodes Night Out 2 and explaining why it was made and where it came from is a lot easier than introducing your friend to a ‘resource for helping you pick up girls’. Share it with anyone and everyone, facebook, twitter, guys or girls. The girls I’ve shown this to think it’s hilarious and cringe worthy and nothing they have ever seen. If we hit the mark 25,000 views mark by new years day “Redchodes Day Out 3” will be born.