Pick Up Girls, Real Social Dynamics. Chodes Night Out 2! Part 2; Lessons From The Worst Trinkets Ever.

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Here he is for some part two fun. Daygame, trinkets and getting ready for the big night.

Review part One Here: http://alexattitude.com/archives/544

(for mobile) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4IUgH5NZAT4 (

The next part of this video features Timf indulging in a touch of self help reading.

Personally… I am massively opposed to self help reading in the field of learning how to pick up girls. The reason for this is a girl’s psychology is naturally attracted to a guy who thinks he doesn’t need help. Seeking self help consultation from other people in your life is excellent is almost every realm (finance, education, workout) EXCEPT cold approach pick up. As a reader of Alexander~ RSD materials realise that my message to you AS A CONSULTANT is that you are enough. My ‘self help’ to readers and bootcamp trainees is that you don’t need help in order to get girls any more, buuuuuut expert consultation can make you freakishly good and absurdly consistent. It really does take personalise work and demonstration for you to even comprehend that ‘you are enough’ could even be true, the purpose of actually doing a live program, not just reading the info online.

The one step of internalising the ‘you are enough’ self help I provide is massively important for sure, and for the most part is the one thing that you’d take from this website before you are ready to graduate from the community. If you don’t get this message you could really turn out just like Timf. We’ve seen it on too many occasions.

Let me remind you that my goal is to play the role of your consultant, to treat you like the king of your reality and help your make the most of it based on my experience, not to dictate to you as a guru or tyrant. Another clear goal of ours to provide to students is to take the role of doing what some consider to be unobtainable thus bringing it into our trainee’s realities. The demonstration of the seemingly unobtainable is still a instance of consultation, and in doing it paves the way for self belief in students, it doesn’t do it for you.

I also know that students, as “I am enough” as they are, sometime lack motivation to do what they know they should be doing. So another of my goals is to share my passion about what we do and share the stories that come from being very much in congruence with “I am enough” and being naturally attractive to inspire you to get out there reignite your own passion and pursuit of creating your own insane adventures.

So in creating the scene where Timf reads all the self help books I’m drawing your attention to how silly it can be to take too many self help books to seriously. Or, just reminding you that these are designed as consultants to you, as you are the king of YOUR reality. Self help reading is not the answer, but a step in strengthening (making more efficient, making more effective) the “enough” that you already are.

The alternative to reading self help is autobiographies, true crime, and memoirs. Some of my favourite books of all time are Jeffy’s Nineball, Tucker Max’s I hope They Serve Beer In Hell, Anthony Kiedis’s Scar Tissue, Underbelly The Australian true crime series and the stories of Australian sports stars Shane Warne and Tony Lockett.

Guys who get too into the self help stuff can end up like Timf Bhraowhn. Inside their head to the point of sociopathy following other people as their gods at the expense of their own connection to reality. These guys, sadly, do get to the point of absurdity with how seriously they take it.

Remember, its consultation, not a substitute for treating yourself like your own King. Every King needs their expert consultants so they can concentrate on being reliable and inspirational leader others need him to be.

Timf indulges in a little bit of daygame, and as absolutely weird as he is, he is at least a interesting to girls and captures their attention for a while. I think it would have been possible for him to have empathised with the girls, been more normal and done an OK job of creating a connection with them, and maybe get their numbers. But, like so many chodes, he just walked away. You don’t learn much, have much fun, or get very good results if you walk yourself away from your own approaches.

In the Timf approaches, the girls are interested and stunned that someone is approaching them, even though he is as weird as he is. There is something compelling and engaging about his confidence regardless of his attempt to use bad game. If the girls aren’t running away from the set during the day, and they are engaged then there is plenty of potential to do something with the interaction, trust that you are enough, even if the girls can’t keep up with your unforeseen cold approach and your superior level of social indifference. With day game approaches, just as with Timf’s examples, your more likely to be overwhelming, then to have bad game. Be patient with people who aren’t expecting you to approach.

Then its onto the trinkets! The old idea of peacocking is not a bad way to make yourself more socially versatile and does certainly give girls a reason to approach you if they want to. As you become more emotionally mature all you need is good eye contact to give girls justification to approach you. Some people do get trinket-happy which doesn’t help with social skills and causes you to look like a clown. Outside the known pick up community jewellery, bling, fashion and trinkets can be good to get conversations started but unless you are a solid product of a guy then your trinkets wont be enough to convert conversation into consummation. Sadly, trinkets can reinforce guys to decorate themself excessively as though getting more trinkets will give them more positive attention. Of course the more you rely on non-personality entities to get girls’ attention, the lesser your confidence in your own personality to keep girls’ attention.

The scene where Timf is licking the ice cream and leering on girls is my favourite part of this whole production. I tried to think of the creepiest thing he could do as though it was an “NLP visualisation technique” or something. It’s inspired by the scene from Bad Santa where the guy is creeping on the girls playing volleyball. I originally tried to film this short by hand holding the camera. It was impossible to do without a tripod because I couldn’t stop laughing at the image of him and the creeped-out our reactions that women had as they passed by. Women would actually accelerate to scurry away and avoid this this creepy fuck felating his ice cream behind dark moon glasses in the street.

Everyone has their own little pre-going out rituals, and Timf has his own creepy version that includes rubbing his dick to cartoon porn and applying olive oil to his hair. I often get asked what instructors do for their pre-game psychological preparation at home before we go out. The answer is nothing. After enough experience being in the club and talking to girls on cold approach requires no specific rituals. Being socially comfortable everywhere is the reality that you grow into through previous experience. I would go as far to say that any specific pre-game rituals will heighten your outcome dependence about the night to come, making you more anxious and less cool. I’ve seen some pretty funny pre-game rituals, and this is a production of a combination of rituals I’ve seen in my travels.

As the producer of the videos it was fun to think of a funny combination of game clothes that could present Timf as a try hard. I was in Amsterdam the week before so it was easy to gather plenty of glowing electric peacocking shit for Timf to sport on his big night out. The intention was for him to look like some kind of Scandinavian Guido, a human representation of a Nokia phone.

On the street he actually had a crowd gathered around cheering him while I was taking the shots. He marched all the way to the club where he waited in line for 20 minutes. For better view we had him rush the security guards at the front door to try to get in. He was diplomatically turned away about four times before the bouncer finally turned him away with force. Though he was dressed like a pill-freak people didn’t look twice at him. A testament that people really are mercilessly centred on themselves.

After being turned away from his first club he he did get into another club. The club that would become the stage for his big night and conclusion to this little movie…

Part three featuring his big night and movie resolution coming soon.

Alex~




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67 Comments

ChinaBoy

Hahahahaha.

Fucking awesome. So funny.

Is this Erik v from malmo?

ChinaBoy

Watermel

Come on, even if everybody is responsible for their own stupidity, the industry is partially responsible for creating Timfs by trying so desperately to sell their shit, and promising magic supreme world-class level results so they can justify thier huge margins.

And you have to go through different ways before you find what works for you and what do you like. It is not reasonable to have an opnion about NLP before you learn what exactly it is.

But I agree that there is a strange feeling when you read self-help books. Like, this is not for me. I recently bought Emotional Intelligence by Goleman (the 2nd part, intended for professionals) and I don’t know what to do with it now. There is no information, only stories and silly titles on EVERY SINGLE PAGE, I kid you not:

“ALWAYS DO BETTER” – “HAVE SELF CONFIDENCE” – “HAVE TALENT AND BELIEVE IT” – “HOW TO HANDLE YOUR CAREER” – “THE POWER OF INTUITION: THE FIRST 30 SECONDS” – “ATTENTION: OUR MOST PRECIOUS RESSOURCE” – “THE WAY TO PROGRESS” – “THE SOURCE OF COURAGE” – “TO KNOW OTHER PEOPLE, YOU MUST KNOW YOURSELF FIRST” – “HOW TO FEEL BETTER AND BETTER” – “BENEFITS OF STAYING CALM”

Is Goleman trying to teach me life? Well thanks Goleman, it’s so nice. I want to be Goleman, sell books that say nothing. You don’t even have to be a psychologist to write those kind of books, and research references like “Scientists found that a lack of sleep makes you feel tired” don’t interest anyone anyways.

Johan

I do absolutely agree that reading self help probably will fuck up your sucess more than help you, cause what self help reading does is really telling yourself that you are not enough, EVER. You continue to read and read and read and u are always looking for that “high”. During the moment you ARE READING you feel like “yeaah this is the shit!” but afterwards you end up with this empty feeling. Why? Cause by even telling yourself you need SELF HELP is inharently saying to yourself that you are not enough as you are, so I do agree with you.

At the same time, what you are saying here is the complete opposite of what you RSD guys do to your folks – Your forum is fucking FILLED with self-help nonsense and brainwashed woo woo spirutuality guys. Ever since 2007 the RSDnation is complete shit – I hate to be this negative but its true, its probably the forum I would tell anyone to stay away from cause the mindfuck going on there is bisarre actually – the main forum, that is.

So my question is, if self help probably fucks up your success, why do guys like Tyler for example harp on it so damn much? And why do 80% of the RSD concepts completely contradict?

You know, I dont wanna believe this, but there are lots of rumours going around on the net (and IRL) that you guys on RSD are basicly doing this consiously to confuse your members, to keep them hooked in, cause it is a great strategy for that, its NLP and manipulation (and cult control) in its essence – but at the same time I want to think better of you cause alot of what you are saying is good stuff.

IMO you would benefit by making your concepts less confusing for people and the instructors stop contradicting eachother all the time.

Thankyou.

    Watermel

    RSD does use marketing, and whataver technique behind it that is required, just look at their silly sales pages realsocialdynamics.com. But nothing original, everybody who sells on the internet does the same thing. Stewart told me two years ago that they plan to change it, but they did nothing about it, so it must be working for them.

    As for “create confusion to keep guys hooked in”, I don’t think they do something deliberately. They do try to bring new concepts or metaphors so they have a steady flow of content, and every instructor speaks from his own perspective, this is why things may seem contradictory.

    But I have nothing to do with RSD, maybe Alexander will tell you whether or not he’s using NLP on you.

    Willh

    That’s an interesting viewpoint. I think a lot of the concepts contradict because they are pieces of a larger dynamic subject that does not have a set way of being successful just like there are diesel, electric, etc cars that all have an engine that works a bit differently. As for your self help disdain I think Alex would agree with you, because at summit he talks about not needing to have a “pickup coach have you” but a “pickup/dating consultant”. The idea is the boss doesn’t need “help” per say but an intelligent man making intelligent decisions consults someone to help make better choices in areas of success. Cheers man, good luck to you.

      Johan

      Yes, well the last thing a dude who wants more pussy and social success needs is concepts that contradicts causing mindfucks – Thats what NERDS have, intellectual nerds who lite to analyse shit – thats why they arent getting laid, cause they overcomplicate shit in their head, whereas the stupid football jock just doesnt think about that shit at all.

      My honest opinion is that if you get too into this RSD stuff (or ANY seduction community) ur basicly fucking up your own success, cause soon ull have hundreds of different concepts (some even SIMILAR but just with other names like “gorilla” or “Frame control” which is the same shit) or very different concepts like “you are enough” and “you have to be alpha” or why not “relaxe” and “be high energy, woo”, or “dont have an ego” with “be a narcissist extreme self love!” and “build up your ego!” as brad say. The community, and especially you guys on RSD has this problem, its not really a secret, you have THOUSANDS of concepts that contradicts, this have been said again and again, and as I said, thats the last thing a dude needs who want to be better in this game, thats just the reality of it.

        Watermel

        ” thats the last thing a dude needs who want to be better in this game, thats just the reality of it.”

        Ok, but those guys still crave information abound social dynamics, so coaches try to explain in the best way possible.

        I took a bootcamp with Alexander and don’t really regret it. He didn’t try to confuse us with contradictions, his game is very simple and straightforward. The first rule is to acknowledge that if you trust yourself, if you realize that you are enough, everything will work out itself. You don’t have to stress about it, you can just chill and trust the process.

        Coming from such a headspace is very liberating. Not only it dramatically improves your game, but you enjoy the game a lot more and don’t stress about it anymore.

        Stop thinking about those concepts that seem to contradict themselves. Maybe they are not for you. It is normal to advise a shy guy who looks tired and beaten to be more energetic, enthusiastic and expressive. It is also normal to advise somebody who is way too agressive and lacking calibration to chill the fuck out.

        Do you now unterstand now why advices can contradict themselves? They simply adress different issues.

        And if you have about 4000 $ to spend, take a bootcamp with Alexander and go travel for a month, you’ll have fun.

        Alexander RSD

        You’re right. Easy your confusions by simply following my Natural Instincts Method. No contradictions in there. Very simply and easy to follow, just what you say you want.

        http://alexattitude.com/archives/353

        Enjoy.

      Alexander RSD

      well said.

    Alexander RSD

    Individually my concepts don’t contain contradiction. Maybe the reason you see contradiction is because the RSD guys don’t work together on creating concepts.

    We’ll all write what we stand by. If you look at the ‘opposing ideas’ closely you can see that they are reconcilable if you think about it hard enough.

    I choose to focus on writing about and publishing about my finding, and not analyzing others’ findings.

    There is no tactic to deliberately confuse readers, quite the opposite actually, our goal is to give you information and help you.

    Alex~

Faisal

Haha this is awesome. Thanks for sharing the value. Speaking of autobiographies – I would like the book by Australian cricket star – Michael Hussey. The book is called ‘Mr.Cricket’ and it illustrates what it means to set solid goals, how to deal with challenges in life and how to deal with dips in your game – something that is overlooked.

ChinaBoy

It´s simple…no need to overthink it (well, i do it all the time)

YOU ARE ENOUGH.

1.Do shit
2.Deal with shit
3.Touching
4.Time is your ally

Doesn´t matter what you do but what you deal with. Now you just need to learn how to endure tests.

ChinaBoy

djne

really like this.

Consultant alex, please keep up the stream of articles, consulting with you relaxes me.

that is all.

    Alexander RSD

    Will do Sir! Working on it now!

    Alex~

Gutte pojken

This is really good stuff actually. The first and second choades night out, and the articles that came with em.
That of playing not to win, being afraid of hummiliation instead of turning it into laughter. Watching the movies is really makes me look at myself and go, “waow… i really do take myself to seriously… how utterly useless”. Hum… yeah self-image preservation and what not…

This is really good stuff, and funny shit… Hopefully those of us walkin around takin life so damn seriously all the time, will get the message of choades night out articles and movies! waow reallly… it sort of like walkin around intelectually sayin one shouldn’t take life to seriosluy, and after watchin this realizing that that very statement was just another concept for the self-image to thrive on. atleast i’m laughing now at the ridicoulusness of takin it all so seriously.

This is really what I needed to hear and see. ;)

So yeah nice one… cheers Alex!

Keep up the de-choading! :)

    Alexander RSD

    Awesome mate, if I have helped to take away the pressure you put on yourself then that’s exactly what i wanted to achieve. To help you to relax, take control of your own actions, feel less stifled and have more fun.

    Alex~

Alex

THANKS FOR THE MOBILE LINK!

Johan

QUESTIONS FOR ALEX NATURAL INSTINCTS METHOD

Okey Alex so I read your natural instincts method on recommendation. However theres some things thats not clear to me and since I like this blog much better than the rsd forum I wont spam you there. So heres my questions regarding this method:

1. Earlier u have said that “if the girl is not gaming you, you are not getting laid” – I see nothing of this in the method, is this theory old now and shouldnt be taken into consideration?

2. I see nothing about qualifying and getting the girl to invest, what about that?

3. By creating initiative, which is the first point, does that include that you can basicly say anything u want as long as its coming from the right place and idealy has a range of emotions? Also, if theres some tactics that you find amusing and fun to use, is it ok to use those?

Answers on these will probably clear up my own, and also others confusion.

Thanks m8

    Vasco

    1. That principle holds true. if you are enough and you can express emotions, then the little actions you take will translate into big arousal for the girl and big investment from her.

    if you are enough and you are just having fun and talking shit, girls will game you, not because you do anything for that effect, but as a byproduct of your way of acting and the place you’re coming from.

    2. qualification is good for day game. night game is about fun, illogicality, cool music and bright lights. keep it fun and lighthearted. as for getting the girl to invest, it’s the same as above. just focus on being a fun guy, being enough and influencing people around you, and that investment will come as a byproduct.

    3. you can say anything you want, as long as it’s coming from the right place. that’s right. and the right place is being having fun and talking shit! for the negative and positive emotions there aren’t “tactics”, but there are vehicles.
    - boundaries, teasing, making fun of the girl are negative emotions for example
    - verbailising beauty (what you love about her), plotlines, expressing what you love are positive emotions for example
    naturally these all intertwine and merge, so these are just pointers. just focus on making what you say have a strong influence on people (constructive influence), specifically girls.

    my opinion naturally, mistakes may be present !

      Alexander RSD

      Nice Vasco, You know I love your work…

      Alex~

    Alexander RSD

    Johan, The Answers to your questions:

    1: “you only get laid when the girls” game you is still true. Article with a bit more about that soon. But basically those skills that I had written about are straight-up skills that can very easily be put into practice by guys who are just starting out. What I mean by “you only get laid when the girls game you is” that if you spend enough time with the girl, with physical rapport and allow sexual tension and comfort to increase over a period of the time the girl will start to push your buttons and try to get you to react to her – that is her gaming you, her investment into taking things forward. Making her cognitively comfortable, and even excited about the idea of being alone with you later. Skill Number 3 and 4 together make that work.
    2. Qualification as a theory is part of expressing a range of emotions in the first skill “Creative Initiative (Talk Shit)”. Doing a lot of talking will include you giving girls personality compliments (what you understand as qualification) which i describe as positive expression through talking.
    3. With 3, yes. There is a wide range of whats fine to say. Things that are more interesting than boring, and less off putting than offensive. The first skill of creating initiative means to just talk (vomit, million dollar mouthpiece, the infinite well) so it will include that massive range of emotions because there will be a wide variety of content. It WILL be coming form the right place becuase of hre first part of the Natural Instincts Method that states that **You Are Enough**.

    Hope this adds clarification.

    Are you Swedish BTW?

    Alex~

Adrian

Well effin job Alex. Tomorrow i turn 22 and i’d like to travel overseas to get a bootcamp with you, or at least watch a free tour with my own eyes(i’m stuck in Spain until i get money lol). I got to say that you man are completely awesome, and from my point of view, a honest and sheer kindness who really enjoy and find a sense of fulfillment helping others out.

It may be possible that some RSD concepts contradict, but is simply for the reason that each instructor runs his own game, and they dont sync their knowledge for most of the ideas. Nonetheless, the meaning of these ideas are utterly useful and chode-proof. And honestly, i don’t think that all the time and effort that they use to put out the content is serving another dark purpose (like “confusing” users to keep’em hooked to the community..? what for..? money?? do you guys know that there are FREE TOURS? yeah, free)

Kudos to you, man. Keep up the good work and have always in mind that you are constantly helping people. World needs guys like you, and to a further extent, psychologists like you ;)

Johan

Alright thanks for the clarification Alex. Ive decided to discard all of my PU material, even the RSD ones but the stuff on this blog.

The things Ill use to my journey is your articles and your natural instincts method, thats it. It seems the most solid ones to me and concepts doesnt contradict. Ill report back!

Yep Im from sweden!

    Alexander RSD

    Cool mate, I will reply to all questions on here cos I can personally keep the content of this site under control and be accountable for everything that goes on here. In fact, if you have any article requests please let me know. Alex~

    Sverige mit andra hem.

      Johan

      Thanks Alex, yes sweden is awesome. Oh by the way, its spelled “mitt”, not “mit”, just some lesson in swedish for future writing ;)

      Anyway, one thing Ive struggled with since studying “inner game” is that when I learned that its primary you behaviour which causes attraction in girls is that Ive become more self consious often monitoring “my behaviour” cause I know thats what matters, so it have created some kind of self destructive loop in my mind where I analysing my own behaviour which ofcourse causes me to be “inside my head” and therefor not sparking attraction, its like an evil circle which is very hard to get out of. I guess uve had students with similar problems, how do you solve this basicly?

      Cause I can remember old days when I used to draw confidence from my looks or whatever, I then had a “logical fact” which made it possible to me to be more outside my head and therefor I didnt second guess myself, but again, when I learned its my behaviour I lost this situational confidence and made me often think about if I had the right behaviour or not.

      Would appreaciate your take on this. Take care!

        Alexander RSD

        Yeah, certainly had this issue before.

        Arousal is attraction, so any actin you do, is arousal which is attraction.

        There are no specifically good actions, it just a culmination of many actions that help to develop rapport and physical arousal.

        You might think some actions are wrong. Maybe, there is a big range of things that are fine to do. So either you do one thing that is socially well received, or you do something that isn’t socially well received which will generate a non-compliance test.

        Both things are arousing. If you did good, good, If you did not-so-good, endure the following test, and it becomes good.

        Either way, all actions are good, make the set longer (NIM 4 time is your ally) which works for you.

        You should think about doing the bootcamp with me to get this stuff sorted out.

        Alex~

Dave

Question Alex. In a club situation how do you fascilitate more time with the girl? There’s so many distractions like friends, music, alcohol etc. how do you go about monopolizing her time investment in the two of you talking? Or do you allow her to be distracted and go back in with a warm approach?

Also with this time dynamic, do you ever pull early because you don’t want to actually waste time? Or do you always wait it out till the girl leaves, and leave with her?

    Alexander RSD

    Ehhh, I hate to publish this but the phenomenon I trust is that the trick to picking up girls form a night club is simply being there at the time they leave.

    Girls want arousal, so even if you are the coolest and most interesting guy there will be some bouncing around. But, you can always re-engage, and cross paths over and over again. Build up rapport and comfort simply by familiarization. Include that with your usual escalation game and you should start to lock in or hook well.

    By that same phenomenon you can do very little and ‘happen’ to walk out together at the same time as the girl and that can be just as effective as good game inside. Its a stupid trick, but its the variable to focus on if you want to have night game success.

    Why then do you go into the club? To get yourself calibrated and into the a good that is compelling and fun enough that a girl would seek to want to hang out with you. The club is a place where you can let loose and have fun and achieve the mood (state/vibe) of RELAXED AROUSAL.

    http://www.rsdnation.com/alexander/blog/alexander-rsd-geneva-relaxed-arousal?#comment-648401

    Alex~

      Dave

      Thanks. This is something I was considering but wasn’t entirely certain of. You clearing it up for me puts my mind at ease. Going by your “enough” natural instincts method feels so much like I’m not “doing game” that it can be of a mindfuck, since I’ve been “gaming” for so long. This blog and your rsdn input has been incredibly transformative. Looking forward to your product! At this point I’m sure I’ve got things down, but I’ll buy and recommend it to my friends to repay you the value you’ve brought… No more worries haha!

        Alexander RSD

        Ha! Thank you mate, if you could cross promote these articles and my about me video on the net thats one way. I know how to create this value, I know nothing about how to spread it.

        I just spoke to Nick BTW, my first hotseats will be in Asia in March.

        Alex~

      ChinaBoy

      Does that mean that it´s effective to COLD approach girls near the coat check near closing time, walk with them out and then pull them?

      Just thinking about how to improve chances for pulling.

      I also do streetgame at 2-5 AM looking for drunk quick pulls.

      Ivi

        Alexander RSD

        EXACTLY which is silly but true.

        The reason why we go to the club is to genuinely enjoy yourself doing whatever it is that you enjoy, and unwind until you have a relaxed vibe at the end, your socially calibrated, have a good vibe of innocence and empathy so you are ready made for people to feel comfortable with. It helps if you have warm approaches at the end of the night, not cold approaches.

        Alex~

besserwisser

this video made me instantly feel like the coolest person on earth lol can’t wait for part 3!

    Alexander RSD

    You are enough… so of course!

    Alex~

Johan

Still waiting for response alex.

    Dave

    Johan in my opinion when you emotionally trust that you’re enough you let go of controlling and micromanaging every little detail logically. This emotional trust gives you a faith to let go, things will work out because you’re enough and so you just ride that trust. This leads you with less and less to manage in your head and more space and freedom and relaxation. Read Ozzie’s Fake Wheel article on rsdn. All those little controls you think are helping you are just safety blankets you’re hanging onto for comfort, but are probably meaningless and not actually the cause of siuccesses you have.

      Alexander RSD

      Did I answer this ok?

      And yeah, Dave is accurate.

      Alex~

Johan

Well isnt this “I am enough” mindset a RESULT of something? Some kind of confidence

    Dave

    Sounds like situational confidence vs core confidence.

    How about be confident because you live up to your own standards and values. You can basically put a value on anything. “I have a cool hair cut.” “I did my chores today.” “I have a job I enjoy.” “I am kicking ass with my career” ANYTHING, big or small.

      Johan

      Well theres tons of succesfull guys out there who have great jobs an Im sure they value it but they still do bad with WOMEN

        Alexander RSD

        There are many guys that have no job and do excellent with women.

    Watermel

    I view it as a result of your own biology.

    You, simply by being a man, are enough for the girl to be attracted to.

    This is the headspace you want to operate from.

      Alexander RSD

      Yes, evolutionarily mean and women are attractive to one another. You included. Its how guys individually compromise themselves that defines that principle.

    Alexander RSD

    “Confidence happens when you perceive that nothing holds you back” that is to say, everyone can have it, once they let go of validation from good things, and perception of ‘bad’ things.

    Anyone can behave in a confident way, and women respond to this. The reason most people don’t have confidence is because they look beyond themselves, not satisfactorily at themselves.

    The way you get this confidence is by becoming indifferent to good social results, and bad social results. IE, experience infield, and acknowledging those experiences to youself.

    Alex~

Chris

Johan your enough simply cos you exist. That is your natural state. No reason. What country are you from? Are you proud of that country? That’s the same way you should feel about yourself. Patriotic about yourself. Get it?

Dave

Ultimately confidence is like faith its a choice you make. If everybody relied on “reasons” to feel confident, they would never get anything done because there’s always a reason NOT to feel confident.

Johan

Dave your confidence is always attached to something, this is pure psychology but also Tylers words.

    Watermel

    Then you’d better attach your confidence to something very solid, like your dick!

    Dave

    Johan while you are in your head searching for reasons to feel confident and debating on the internet about sources of confidence there’s a man who simply feels confident for no reason that is taking a girl home tonight. Do you want to feel right or feel a girl? Pick your poison.

      Johan

      No, no one can feel confident for no reason, thats not human psychology. EVERY natural out there are confident cause of some reason, thats how the human mind works.

      Theory is here to help you, if the theory is messed up you will become messed up if you believe in it too much, thats why Im questioning it and trying to get an understanding of it.

        Dave

        Read Alex’s articles on self esteem if you want theoretical understanding. All the information is out there free for digesting. You’re pinging ideas off myself and others here and we’re all giving you our understanding of confidence and self esteem – but you’re stubbornly/trollishly not even attempting to see it on the same page. Anyway, off to get laid.

        Dave

        Read Alex’s articles on self esteem if you want theoretical understanding. It’s all in simple terms, perhaps too simple than you’d like it to be.

        You’re pinging ideas off myself and others here and we’re all giving you our understanding of confidence and self esteem which is on the same page as Alex’s theories. Alex wrote something on the forum that you can have logical cognitive understanding, but you need to also emotionally understand it by experiencing “being enough”. Until you get experiences which enlighten you emotionally the logic is just as stale as mathematics, when you’re actually with a chick.

        Good luck in figuring it out for yourself.

        Alexander RSD

        It **is** male human psychology that you can be confident for no reason. Its social conditioned coming form alpha males around your suppressing it so they can get the girls and status.

        Why are you more confident when you are drunk? Because you dim down the cognitive part of the brain that stifles you.

        Why are little kids confident, not socially conditioned enough yet.

        Why are non-stifled people attractive, because they act on initiative and creativity which is arousing to be around and interesting to women more than non-initiative guys.

Johan

Problem is you are answering questions I asked ALEX and no one else, stop being a drone for him, I want alex anwers, no one else.

And yes, IVe read it all, still didnt answer my question.

    Dave

    Spoken like a disgruntled keyboard jockey who can’t find his own answers by actually going out and experiencing them. Waste of my time responding trying to help.

    Dave

    EXACTLY. You’ve read it all but have no answers. Digging deeper into theory is only going to fuck you up MORE. Stop being a disgruntled keyboard jockey who can’t find his own answers by actually going out and experiencing them. Everybodys responses to you are valid.

      Alexander RSD

      Dave, responded like a frustrated guy who’s not yet used to new found intuition about human development.

      AS you become more developed you will need to be patient with others who haven’t had the same realizations yet. They are not your responsibility, and they are not your burden either… your holy grail is unbreakable relaxation.

      Alex~

        Dave

        Alex, true I’ve never been patient with people. This stems back to me growing up with irresponsible parents and having to take on responsibility when I wasn’t ready. Are you ever going to write an article on how to relate to others with more patience and empathy? I could learn from that

Johan

Oh I saw the answer from alex from my original question now. Yeah thankyou, simply doing stuff and not micromanaging it trying to “do the best thing” cause there are no “best thing”, by that mindset you dont care what you do or how you come across which unstifles you and makes you act more spontaneous not being self-consious, however the KEY is how you handle yourself WHEN you get social resistance (shit-tests) when girls looking if you’re strong in your own reality and dont care about her silly nonsense.

Think I got it right, did I?

And yeah, been thinking about bootcamp, will probably do one in the coming summer, u around sweden by then?

Big Dick Bastard

This video is absolutely hilarious!!! Keep making shit like this Alex.

Achilles~

This is awesome. fkn Timf. “im from NZ i piss on ur pussy?” haha

looking forward to more stories of adventures!

chris

Hahahaha…love this video. Pure streamlined content as always!

ruz

WOW. THAT WAS ME WHEN I FIRST STARTED.READING YOUR BLOGGED FIXED ME.LOL

Alastor

great vid Alex… digging your relaxed style of game and implementing as much as I can… few questions though:-

1. Daygame on the street: How do you suggest we work with that? I mean, I’m not a big fan or bookstores and parks because sometimes i have to wait rather long for a decent girl to come along, whereas the streets are quite busy. I’ve done direct on the street many times and got numbers but i want to know what the style of game that you promote would look like?

2. Flakes: I’m getting numbers from both daygame and clubs, but so far most have been flakes, the girls wont reply to my text the following day. This is confusing, considering the interactions were quite good, albeit short (approx 10 mins) and I was in a good relaxed state, being physical and escalating shamelessly. Anything I might be missing here?

duckmack

Awesome!!

Karate Saint

In day game, how do you reconcile not being overwhelming with escalating the interaction?

    Alexander RSD

    During day game all that is socially normal is handshakes and shoulder touching.

    The way you escalate is leading venue changes for coffee, and leading walking around together. This way you can escalate with out being overwhelming.

    Alex~



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