Natural Attraction; a fragmented description, Self Esteem and Ego, Alpha male beta male graduation, emotional spikes and congruence tests.

First let me say that this article is a derivative of the Blueprint. Tyler is genius and the RSD staff that inspired the ideas are phenomenal and fun people. This article is an evolution of and a backwards engineered collection of ideas that will help you learn how to become an attractive guy.

Define attraction and solve the game.

The notion of attraction is a confusing and vague principle in the seduction community and for the most part is massively misunderstood. This is obviously a concern as learning to be attractive is important causality to having women in your life.

This article aims to define attraction in the context of the game and help you to become an attractive guy by eliminating behaviours and mindsets that hold you back from being attractive. This article aims to teach you things to do that will create a means to demonstrate your innate natural attraction.

Let me start by making it clear that attraction is not actually something that you can actively do. It is only something that you can be. That said, you can be a certain way that INSPIRES attraction in every woman.

In the game, the way you are is something you can take control of. The other parts are the ways you express and celebrate yourself that allow attraction to be conducted from you to the girl.

The notion of attraction itself isn’t love, affection, sex or status. Most accurately natural attraction is reproduction value.

It’s commonly misunderstood that you can deploy specific behaviours to ensure a girl will be attracted to you. The behaviour itself is irrelevant unless it is coming from the right place. Attraction is not something you can inject into the girl. You have to give her space and opportunity to assign the trait of attraction to you in the emotional centres of her mind and her consciousness.

A lot of guys have absolutely no awareness of this idea. They continue to think that the longer and more intense their routine stack is the more lethal their dose of attraction is going to be for the girl. If you go over the top and divert from your own natural rhythm you will find your actions will stifle the girl’s opportunity to assign attraction to you in her mind.

That said, it is fair and true to assume that as long as you are coming from a naturally masculine place internally, you are hygienic and you are not socially miscalibrated, the girl will find you potentially attractive until you prove yourself otherwise. By that same principle, usually girls will be cool with a guy to begin with until he talks himself into a hole. Instead of just being cool and unreactive in a lot of socially conditioned cases a guy will make a specific effort to attract the girl and instead exterminate his opportunity for her to feel attraction for him.

This is why in so many cases when you introduce two socially calibrated friends of opposite gender they might hit it off straight away. Men and women are designed to be attracted to each other.

A lot of guys also fail to realise that they, simply by themselves, are enough.

The majority of the seduction industry preaches tactics and gambits that are designed to attract girls. To indulge these tactics and gambits to attract women is to acknowledge and internalize that you are not good enough for her to begin with.

Stepping into field disarmed by the assumption that you don’t have want it takes to be good enough with women means that you will be doomed to failure. You will never really achieve anything more than entertaining the girls or getting forced reactions from them. Going out with this assumption is to ensure that you will never achieve natural attraction.

‘Attraction tactics’ appeal to the quick fix solution, ego inflation and perceived social empowerment.

It’s the old metaphor of giving a gun to an otherwise incompetent individual to make them feel empowered and confident. The truth of the matter is that the weaponry is only as good as the individual. To need to use the weaponry to compensate for a lack of natural competency clearly communicates that you are not good enough as you are. It is a communication of low value and is unattractive.

An example of this would be walking up the girl and telling her you drive a Porsche. If a man feels he needs his perceived social weaponry instead of introducing himself he would communicate to her that the guy who drives the Porsche isn’t good enough simply by himself. He is hiding behind something he has been socially conditioned to believe (incorrectly in the majority of cases) will make him attractive.

These kinds of beliefs are crippling to your sense of self value and leave you perceiving yourself to be lower value than the girl and unattractive.

Most simply, women to man attraction is a collection of emotional impulses and desires that mirrors the emotional impulses and desires that occur when men see an attractive women.

Natural attraction indicators are different for men and women due to evolutionary gender polarisation. Women-to-man attraction is scale based while man-to-women attraction is for the most part (naturally) binary.

For men attraction is inspired by aesthetic traits and a man will generally instantly feel attraction for the women or not. For women attraction traits are behaviourally based. It’s not until a certain amount of supporting evidence of particular behavioural traits are seen or experienced that a women becomes attracted to a man. Like a certain decibel reading on a volume dial.

That said, a man can instantly communicate attraction to a women simply by the way he conducts himself OR he will have to accumulate enough attractive communication over time to reach the certain ‘decibel point’ that is attractive.

Because male attraction is function of behaviour sometimes attraction can be fleeting or a misrepresentation of how the man actually is. A good understanding of attraction and a good set of acting skills could lead to effective manipulation of women.

A good cosmetic routine, flattering clothing or surgery could lead to effective manipulation of men.

Naturally a man is born with all the behaviours that are attractive to female perception, it is due to social conditioning that he develops steadfast unattractive habits.

The some traits that make a man attractive are the following:

• Self trust (non-hesitant)
• Responsibility for himself (doesn’t displace his responsibility onto others)
• A man of action (not lazy nor lacking in initiative)
• A man of indifference (non outcome dependant)
• Social proof (seen as attractive by others)
• A man of dominance (as opposed to passiveness)
• Hygiene (healthy)
• A man of positivity (not restrained by negative forces)
• A man unstifled by his environment (a man in control of his environment or reality)
• Resourcefulness (not limited by any situation)
• Intelligence (not limited in his ability to reason and think)
• Traits consciously assigned as attractive. (things perceived to be attractive in the social context)

Let me state the obvious for the oblivious: if you’re not hygienic and don’t have some degree of contextual social savvy you will be considered low value. There are basic rules to the social world. If you don’t play by the rules are you simply not in the game.

All of these traits are a fragmented summary of evolutionary replication value.

Further summarised, this is a man who knows ‘who he is’ and who is on his purpose.

The more a man is on his purpose, the more people react to him. When a person reacts to something they experience an emotion, the more emotions experienced the more attracted the person becomes. Emotions are addictive, arousing and exciting.

To react to others is unattractive, to follow your path and have people react to you as a by product is attractive.

In terms of formula it could be stated that:

Attraction = Higher Value plus a (full range) of Emotions that are(limitless).

To be ‘who you are’ and to be on your purpose causing people to react to you will inspire women to be attracted to you. Remember however, even if you are attractive to a girl it doesn’t necessarily mean you will get any girl.

Imagine you are married or have a great girlfriend and you see Jessica Alba in a movie. Even though you don’t hook up with her doesn’t mean you aren’t attracted to her. This is the same for women, they cannot help be attracted to an attractive guy but it doesn’t mean that she will hook up with him. The getting part it another article about things to do and is an outer game topic.

In short, to be an attractive sex-worthy type guy you simply need to know who you are and follow your path more than the path of others. RSD calls this ‘not giving a fuck what anyone thinks of you’.

A rule to ensure that you always put yourself before others is to ‘express not impress’. To do things because it is something you do, not to take actions because you want to retain ego or impress someone else.

In classic game putting others before you is called ‘trying for rapport’. As a man, to value someone else more than you value yourself is unattractive. To try for rapport with a girl before she is aware that you value yourself more than her is to communicate that her and her path is more valuable than you and your path. This is reactive, an impression of low value and is unattractive.

This is the same as trying to ‘engage’ a set. To intend to engage someone is to imply you need something from them. As a man there is nothing someone can give you that you can’t get for yourself. Trying to engage is a reactive frame. Having overt enthusiasm for yourself and what you are doing will compel others to want to be involved with you.

To inspire involvement means that you need to know ‘who you are’ enough and to know your path enough to be worth being involved with. This is what it means to offer value. To approach trying to engage means to take value.

This means going to the club specifically to pick up women is unattractive. To go to the club to have your own fun and involve girls in what you are doing is attractive.

A man on his path who knows ‘who he is’ and what he wants in his life.

Beautiful girls have high replication value and naturally inspire attraction in men. Therefore men naturally desire beautiful women in their life. However social conditioning can lead men to feel they need women.

Desiring and persisting is attractive, needing and validation seeking is unattractive. When interacting with women an action could pertain to either of these value polarised frames. It is simply the frame of communication behind any set of actions that will determine whether you are attractive or unattractive.

Once a man knows ‘who he is’ and he values his path above all others’ he perpetually communicates a persistent and indifferent frame in any social situation. If a man derives his sense of self by external validation he projects a needy and validation seeking frame.

It is ok to desire women but to need is unnecessary and lower value. Once you make harmony with the notion of ‘desire without attachment’ you will perpetually communicate a higher value frame, be perpetually attractive and as a result beautiful women will find their way into your life.

The first part of natural attraction is being higher value. The second part is inspiring a range of emotions in the girl.

An interesting example of this rule is when a man has extremely high value from social status or social proof (for example a rock star) that just the idea of that man himself is enough to inspire emotions in women.

If a man is high enough value this alone can inspire emotions in a girl and render him attractive. If a man can inspire enough emotions in a girl that alone can render him unique and an entity of value to her. But that value only lasts as long as he has the ability to inspire emotions in her.

The first component of natural attraction is high value (HV)

To clarify, the terms ‘self esteem’, ‘integrity’, ‘honesty’, ‘self trust’, ‘coolness’, ‘strong frame’, ‘unreactive’, ‘strong reality’, ‘internally centred’, ‘state’ and ‘nimbus’ are all essentially the same thing and are all correct alternate labels for the notion of high value. Ultimately these are all one and the same thing that pertain to different contexts.

The self is always coming through. The girl will know if you are a high value guy long before you approach. A good test of whether or not you are coming from a place of higher value is if you don’t get instantly blown out. If you are getting instantly blown out it is because you are perpetually sub communicating low value before you even open your mouth.

What most guys will find is that girls approached will be hopeful that you will be an attractive high value guy be and will be willing to listen to what you have to say. You generally will be going fine until you self sabotage or simply eject from a lack of validation, indications of interest or to protect your ego.

High value is achieved when, in your reality, you and what you do are of primary value to you. That is to also say that, other people and the things they do are of subordinate importance to you and what you do.

But calibration is important. You and your path might be the most important thing to you, but if who you are and what you are doing is beyond the reality of the people you are interacting with then you will come off as weird. Calibrate and be responsive in the moment and communicate within your recipients realities.

‘Who you are’ is intrinsically interwoven with your sense of self, your ego, your reactivity, your internal centeredness, your state and your social status.

So, the most essential part of achieving high value is to know ‘who you are’.

If you constitute your sense of self or state from external sources ‘who you are’ will incorrectly take the form of ego. If you define ‘who you are’ externally in terms of ego you can never totally know who you are. With an ego based externally formed sense of self you will be reactive to your reality and displace the responsibility of ‘who you are’ onto uncontrollable fluctuating sources.

If you have an ego when you approach a women you will sub communicate seeking validation of the ‘I’m good with girls ego’ or ‘I’m a chode’ ego you have. You will be reactive, lower value and unattractive.

In most cases peoples’ egos are who they see themselves as. If a person’s sense of self isn’t validated immediately in the set of girls they will either feel emotional hurt from the lack of validation or not push the interaction further so as not to risk compromising their ego based sense of self. Result is no attraction and no girls.

If you define ‘who you are’ externally by ego you will always be reactive to the girls and hence be lower value than them. You will not be attractive.

Validation seeking is what it means to take value from people. When you approach girls with an ‘I’m good with girls ego’ or the ‘I’m not uncool ego ’you are essentially sucking value from them in the form of trying to get them to validate your ego. When you interact with the girl you are communicating to her that you need her to validate you for you to feel complete.

If you seek ego validation the girl is more indifferent than you, you care more, are more reactive and are low value. If you have a ‘chode ego’ you waste presence trying to manage impressions that might get bad reactions. The girl is less outcome dependant than you, it leaves you lesser value than her and you unattractive to her.

For a betas males ‘who they are’ is determined by social conditioning. In for betas their sense of self is a combination of what they are trying to project and what is projected onto them. A false socially conditioned ‘chode ego’ stands in place of their natural selves.

To know ‘who you are’ is to be egoless and a guy who takes responsibility for his reality by living presently and trusting himself on a moment by moment basis. Free from validation seeking or stifling effects from external sources. To be egoless is to reveal your natural self that is composed purely of self esteem.

Who you are is essentially composed of two layers. The foundational layer is your solid and unchanging physical nature – your biological natural self (some refer to this as your ‘core’). The second level is the expression of your natural self – the way you decorate yourself, celebrate yourself and interact with the world.

Understanding of what it means to be yourself will require another article all to itself but a brief explanation is important here for a thorough understanding of what it means to be naturally attractive.

Who you are is male and with that comes biological natural default settings. If you live in alignment with your biological self you will be in alignment with your natural self. This purely natural self can be seen in pre socially conditioned kids, buzzed drunk guys, guys dealing with girl from other languages were social conditioning doesn’t have common language to be communicated in, born naturals or guys nimbusing.

I realised that some of the skills I used to teach on bootcamp would simply naturally arise from guys when they were unstifled, instate or in one of the conditions conductive to naturally attractive behaviour above. These behavioural traits consistently inspired a phenomenal attraction.

These same behavioural traits are what all instructors have in common even though they are seemingly very different guys.

As a guy ‘who you are’ is naturally set in your DNA and it is the same for every guy. To live out of alignment with your natural behavioural traits is have a ‘chode ego’. To live in alignment with your natural traits is to be yourself. It is who you are. Regardless of what happens to you throughout your life it can’t be denied that your naturally innate behavioural traits compose who you naturally are.

**As a side note, knowing who you are becomes easier with age. This is a function of worldly experiences, internal centring and becoming increasingly emotionally indifferent from enduring life’s emotional rollercoaster of doom.**

The behavioural traits that every guy naturally has in common are 1.Presence 2. Positive-Dominance and 3. Escalation.

Once you come into alignment with ‘who you naturally are’ everything you do merely becomes a celebration, decoration or an expression of yourself.

These traits combined make up your nature. This is your natural default state. Your natural default state is one of self esteem and in your natural state you feel good. As a man in your natural state you take responsibility for your reality.

Remember, if you feel good, the girls will feel good because they derive their state from the environment they’re in. If you’re talking to you her state is influenced by you.

The way you define your reality is indicated by the radial arrows on the diagram. The ways you decorate and celebrate yourself come from a place of strength as you are in alignment with yourself as a man and, in contrast to ego, there is no incongruence between who you are and what you do. You have elite congruence.

This is called coming from the right place. To be enough just as you are. To be self assured. To take responsibility for your reality. To define your own reality.

When you understand ‘who you are’ you’re perpetually unreactive. ‘Who you are’ isn’t defined by what others project onto you.

To have an ego would look like this.

To have an ego is to live in reaction, be lower value and unattractive.

To be naturally attractive you need to come (back) into alignment with your natural self by shedding ego. When you achieve elite congruence with your natural self as a man is to perpetually have the world reacting to you. You are higher value, and with each reaction emotions are experienced by those reacting to you.

Because you know ‘who you are’ more than the girls know ‘who they are’ they will react to you more and you will be less reactive than them. They react to you, you are higher value than them and you are attractive to them.

An article on the deeper mechanics, principles and applications of self esteem and is coming soon. Also, an in depth article about what ‘who you are’ means is coming soon as well. The brief outline here is to give you a reference of understanding of what it means to know ‘who you naturally are’.

Back to ‘who you are’:

To understand that you can’t change ‘who you are naturally’ biologically and what your default birth self esteem state is empowering. Knowing that you are ‘who you are’ and that your nature CAN’T BE CHANGED OR ALTERED BY EXTERNAL INFLUENCE is to realise that you will never be in a diminished and in bad state. You can only ‘pretend to be a chode’ with chode ego. When you know who you are you will always be in state or have dormant state, never out of state.

The only reason a guy gets in bad state is because his ego gets deflated.

Natural state = good feelings. You feel good, girl feels good and your attractive.

Chode ego = bad feelings. You feel bad, the girl feels bad and your unattractive.

The only way to be out of state is if your ‘chode ego’ is compromised. If you have no ego to diminish you can’t go into a negative level of state. No one can literally get the better of you because nothing external composes who you are. You are what you naturally are, you consciously decide how you want to celebrate yourself.

This moment by moment celebration and definition of the self is fleeting. An ego can only be constructed if you reference the past and derive an ego bases sense of self from that. Or, you identify with a projected future self and derive an ego based sense of self from that.

Ego is to displace responsibility for your reality onto external sources and derive irrational expectations from the world around you. For example: if you have the ‘I’m a guy who gets girls ego’ you’ll expect them to just show up on your doorstep, and you cease to take responsibility for girl actually showing up at your doorstep.

The guy who knows ‘who he is’ realises that he is no better or no worse than any other man, he was born just the same as every other guy. He has no ego, no expectations of himself and no expectations of the external world around him. He’s the type of guy who thinks that ‘if something’s going to be done right then I gotta do it myself’. The buck stops with him.

This is another way of saying what Tyler calls ‘assuming absolutely nothing’.

But a guy who assumes nothing has far more self assurance than other guys because he’s used to getting shit done and not relying on others to handle the challenge for him. He trusts himself that when it comes to the pressure situation he can handle it. Even when others are going to displace their responsibility elsewhere, probably onto him.

This understanding of yourself means that you don’t identify with what you do, good or bad. It simply means you can take credit for the action. For example, if you fucked up everything in your life, that doesn’t mean you’re a fuck up. Take credit and responsibility for fucking up, but it doesn’t change your identity or what you actually are.

By that same principle, if you went out for the last year and laid a girl every night you understand that means nothing the next time you go out. You take credit for those girls laid but it doesn’t form an identity of who you are. It was just a way you expressed yourself, celebrated yourself and took responsibility for your reality..

The minute you identify with your actions you think that your identity alone will take care of your achievements for you. Instead of you taking responsibility for the next lay you think that your ‘I’m good with girl’s ego’ or reputation will take responsibility for you getting laid. This is called ‘resting on your laurels’ .To do that is totally chode.

You are displacing responsibility. When you approach you are seeking validation of that ego, you are reacting to the girl and are lower value. This identification (formation of ego) is unattractive.

If you laid a girl a night every night for the last year by all means take credit for it. The reference points will assist you in the future and you will be more indifferent (unreactive and higher value) each time the situation arises in the future. However, at the beginning of the next night you are just the same as every man. If you don’t take responsibility for yourself being attractive and escalating then you won’t get laid.

Your mindset at the start of each night and at the start of each set should be ‘every man starts equal, and ‘if this is going to go down then I have be the one to make it happen’. Anything less will have you ejecting early because you don’t want to risk your ego by being blown out.

If you have the attitude that ‘every man starts equal’ and ‘I have to take responsibility for making this happen’ you start humble, you aren’t taking value because you’re not trying to validate yourself with sex.

Rather you offer value by making things happen and taking responsibility for both you and the girl getting laid. You’re not scoring a chick ‘out of your league’ and it’s not a case of her succumbing to you and validating a low value guy. This makes having sex with you a lot more attractive notion to her because you are an attractive guy.

When you start a night or set with the attitude that ‘every man starts equal, that ‘I have to take responsibility if I want this to happen’ you go in with no ego, only self esteem.

You are playing to win, not to avoid losing. It then becomes a fun game and any progress you make is a bonus and a thrill. You’re unapologetic about your well intentioned actions.

Picking up girls becomes a fun game again!

Alarmingly for so many guys in the community pick up isn’t about having fun but rather proving to other guys how awesome they are and getting reputation and social validation for their ‘mad skillz’.

Having fun in field is so much more sustainable than battling to defend your ‘I’m good with girls ego’. In most cases if you go out with this ego it will be compromised and it will leave you feeling shit and out of state anyway. If you feel shit, the girls will feel shit.

The golden rule of natural game is ‘whatever you feel, she feels’. If you’re having fun with pickup, she’ll be having fun with the pickup. After all, it’s just a game. She’s not unhappy because you’re not apologetic for your natural preset attitude of responsibility for picking up on the girl. Why would you be?

It’s how you were designed naturally as a man. She understands that and can’t fault you for it.

In mainstream conversation this is called ‘having balls’. Guys naturally have balls, get back to your natural default self and you will find girls will be naturally attracted to you because you can be your natural self.

More on why approaching with any kind of ego is unattractive.

Think of ego as a compromise of your natural self, diminished self esteem and a false ego sense of self that stands in the way of the ‘natural who you are’.

As mentioned above, to approach a girl being anything less than fully alignment with your natural self is to present the girl with ‘chode ego’. If you have a ‘chode ego’ your natural self/self confidence/self esteem/unreactive self is compromised and you don’t feel as though you are as good as the girl.

So to compensate for chode ego you start doing things that are intended to be impressive. This might include bragging about achievements, negging to try and bring the girl down to a level below you or deliberately running a DHV routine.

To have to convince someone that you are good by taking extra measures is to show that you don’t regard yourself as high value to begin with. If you feel you are low value, she will feel that you are low value. Whatever you feel she feels.

If you approach with ego you are likely to get blown out. This is a god thing because it erodes the ego away to eventually leave only your raw natural self. Take blowouts as a sign that you have an ego. Take blowouts as ego erosion that bring you into alignment with who you really are. This is how the indifference threshold works.

After enough ego inspired blowouts you will let go of caring about how others react to you because it is so frustrating, you will stop giving a fuck and make that internal shift away from outcome dependence to centeredness. You don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks of you, you make the internal shift from low value to high value, you become naturally attractive.

If you have nothing to hide, no ego, self trust and you are a guy who deals with the responsibility of your reality competently on a moment by moment basis all you need is yourself and self trust to achieve high value.

Girls will congruence test you to see if there are any inconsistencies between your behaviour and who you actually are. If what you do is in alignment with ‘who you naturally are’ you will have no ego and no incongruence.

You will blow through the congruence tests and with each test passed it will be vehicle by which to overtly demonstrate that you are a high value guy. More on congruence tests and amplification of attraction by beating tests later in the article.

Living in alignment with yourself is a demonstration of higher value in and of itself. Each of the listed components of the natural self are rare amongst guys and instantly recognised as attractive when encountered by women.

Socially conditioned guys are polar opposites to naturals and usually exhibit the behavioural traits of ‘inside their head and second guessing themselves’, they are pessimistic and passive and they are men of reaction.

Below is a guide to understanding the characteristics of your natural behavioural traits so you can further align yourself with ‘who you naturally are’ in order to become more attractive.

1. To be present is to be high value. To find a guy who is present in this socially conditioned world is rare. A guy who lives in the moment is chilled out, unreactive and has presence. People find themselves reacting to a person with presence. If you have presence you will be less reactive than the people you surround yourself with you are attractive.

A present state will result in you achieving presence. This is because, while living in the moment, you are ultra attentive to all stimuli at hand. While present you have all of your faculties dedicated in the moment to the task at hand. Your attention makes you not reactive but rather ultra responsive and you will be described as ‘the sort of guy who doesn’t miss anything’ or that ‘it’s hard to get anything past that guy’.

Being present and responsive means that you are first to take action in response to any situation, others around you are reactive to you. You establish higher value relative to them.

Being present means that you are a guy who is unburdened by the past and the future and you are outside your head. With an empty head you feel good. You inspire good feelings in the people who are reacting to you. You are attractive.

A source of good feeling and relaxation is of value to everyone.

2. A positive-dominant guy communicates higher value. He not only is a source of good feelings as he draws positivity from within but he communicates that he is not to be fucked with.

Positive-dominance is the essence of an alpha male. It is assertiveness with a smile, leadership and decisiveness while others second guess themselves. Positive-Dominance is an example of proactive leading resulting in others following you and reacting to you. Others reacting to you makes you attractive.

The combination of positivity and dominance is the same as saying ‘woo plus intent’. The four different combinations of positivity and dominance (woo and intent) define the four different types of guys in the world. Depending on the combination and presence of the two will determine the varying levels of attraction of each type of guy.

Understanding this will help to identify what action you need to take to become attractive. You can gauge what type of guy you are and what attraction component you are missing to achieve natural attraction. A breakdown of the four types of guys is at the end of the article.

3. The third component of a naturally attractive guy is escalation. The term refers to being a man of action, a leader and acting on sexual intent. In the set, if you are not moving things forward they usually stall out.

If men derive their state and sense of reality naturally from within women derive their sense of state and reality externally (socially and emotionally by nature). When women are caught up in an emotional whim and find themselves doing something emotionally compelling that is against their cognition they find themselves logically backwards rationalising their actions once the deed is done.

So if you are a man of action and a woman finds herself emotionally compelled to become involved with your actions she will logically justify what happened in hindsight. If a women was unsure if she was attracted to you before she hooks up with you she will likely rationalise that she was attracted to you in hindsight.

If you don’t escalate physically with the girl through the different stages of hooking up with her at any stage you might miss your ‘window of opportunity’ and communicate to her that are not 100% the escalating man that you should be.

In life as a man if you are not taking responsibility for making progress for yourself someone will figure out how you can make progress for them.

If you are out of alignment with your escalation trait then you will find yourself becoming physically weaker and cognitively dimmer.

In the same way if you’re not taking responsibility (being a man of action) for your reality as an alpha male then you will become a beta male and be socially conditioned by alpha males around you or be reactive to them and perceive yourself socially subordinate to women.

Being a man of action means that every time you take an action or a risk you have a chance to consolidate what sort of guy you are. Every time you don’t approach, don’t move the set forward or eject for no good reason you have failed to take action and you are crystallising beta male regression. Usually this is due to the developing an ‘I’m good with girls ego’ that comes from a few months in the community and a couple of good results.

Girls are very receptive to the most prominent stimulus in their reality. If a man of action approaches, who is willing to make decisions, takes risks, move things forwards and keep things interesting the girl will be reactive to this. Her reacting to you means you are higher value, you are an arousing stimulus and it makes you attractive.

**As a side note, finding the alpha male in you requires work and requires working against social conditioning in the same way that resistance training works against gravity. Socially conditioned guys and married guys are generally beta guys who allow external factors to take responsibility for them.
In the case of marriage, sacrificing some alpha traits are necessary to maintain a balanced relationship. But to be alpha, high value and to achieve attraction by people reacting to you requires continual maintenance and responsibility for it. Like at the gym, maintenance and responsibility for your strength will make you stronger than those around you, whereas laziness and not making progress will yield regression and you will be weaker than those around you.

Ultimately alpha male status is relative to other men. Being attractive is like a muscle, take responsibility for it and you will be attraction, get lazy and displace responsibility and you will unattractive.**

These three natural traits of all men are suppressed by social conditioning and in place of these compromised traits stand the ‘pretending to be a chode ego’. If you are not fully in alignment with these three natural traits you will find yourself reacting to others.

Because you’re naturally born with self esteem, when out of alignment with your natural self you will find you have ‘low self esteem’ because it is compromised by social conditioning. This feeling is the same as being in bad state or feeling bad. If you feel bad, she will feel bad; she won’t want to talk to you.

I can’t stress the importance of attraction as a function of being in alignment with your natural self enough. Keep an eye out for another article fully detailing what it means to be ‘who you are’ and what it takes to be fully in alignment with yourself soon.

When people talk about ‘manning the fuck up’ they mean coming into alignment with your naturally masculine traits.

Being in alignment with yourself means you have integrity. It’s just ‘who you are’. As opposed to fronting some bullshit ego and learning a college course worth of material in order to try to manipulate a girl out of your league into bed. All you have to do is bring yourself.

Being your natural self makes natural game a simple and fun pleasure.

If you are in alignment with yourself and are indifferent the girl will recognise that you are high value long before you approach her and she will be instantly receptive. If you have the ‘pretending to be a chode ego’ and you are outcome dependant she will recognise that you are low value and become instantly defensive and perhaps not even talk to you or instantly test you hard core in the style of a straight up blow out.

For now, in the context of defining natural attraction just understand that to be high value you need to be ‘who you are’ naturally to achieve the high value component of the natural attraction formula.

As a guy, when girls do ‘girlie behaviour’ that is beyond our understanding we generally tend to acknowledge that it’s just a girl thing, we don’t bother to try and figure out why they do it we just accept it as it. It’s the same for girls. When girls see guys doing ‘guy guy behaviour’ they probably don’t get what we do and probably won’t try to. They like ‘guy behaviour’ it in the same way that we like girl behaviours simply because girls are mysterious, adorable and attractive and as people they reciprocally compliment out own lives.

The other component of natural attraction is ‘a full range of emotions’

Emotions are elicited in increments of emotional spikes. To elicit these correctly it is important to know what an emotional spike actually is.

An emotional spike is an interactive process and pertains particularly to social and emotional natural gender polarisation. High value is having others react to you and being unreactive to others.

To give someone an emotional spike you can do something specifically to make them react (impression) or it can come in the form of a people reacting to as a function of you being a high value guy on your path.

To react to an emotional spike is to be aroused. Being aroused is the same as being turned on or becoming exited. Tyler said one way of look at emotions spikes is they ‘make the vagina wet’.

If your ultra good – like academy award winning good – at classic style of game you can come close to rendering yourself high value just by deliberately acting in a way that inspires emotional reactions in the girls you are interacting with. But realise that once you run out of these little emotion eliciting techniques your attractiveness will soon cease to exist.

The problem with deliberately making an effort to get the girl to react to you emotionally is actually you a case of you reacting to her.

If you need to think and deliberately do things to get her to react to you, ultimately you are reacting to her and looking for validation. We use the term ‘the self is always coming through’ the girl will realise instantly whether or not your actions are coming from a place of indifference or emotional investment. If you are invested in the action and expect a reaction, you are reactive and not attractive to the girl.

When you elicit a range of emotions in the girl it should be purely a repercussion of you celebrating and expressing yourself as an internally centred guy. This is depicted in the graphic below. You take action without any thought for a reaction. You do it for you and not for anyone else. You are putting your path and intentions before others’.

On the other hand, if you are trying to elicit a range of emotions from a girl deliberately you will sub communicate validation seeking very clearly and the girl will be aware you are trying to make an impression on her so that she will react to you and validate you.

You will certainly get the girl to react to your lines. But unless the emotions you are inspiring in her are coupled with the higher value spoken about above then it won’t actually be attractive.

It can also be said that if you’re higher value than the girl as spoken about, but you don’t take action and actually interact with the girl, the girl won’t feel emotions as a function of you interacting with you and won’t be attracted to you. But, you wouldn’t truly be a high value guy because you would be out of alignment with your escalation trait that constitutes your natural self.

In a lot of cases all the average guy needs to do is go over, start and hold a conversation.

There are a lot of non community guy chilling out in bars who are cool guys. They work hard, have morals, know how to have fun and expect great things from themselves in life. Usually, if they were to just align themselves with their escalation trait and go and talk to the girls the girls would be thrilled.

He would have everything he would need to be attractive.

However even if a guy did start a conversation would then probably regress to being inside their head (non-present), fall away from positive-dominance, second guess themselves and discontinue to move things forward due to the socially conditioned concepts of social politeness that are harboured by the masses in the socially conditioned world.

A full range of emotions is most simply achieved by being higher value than the people around you and having them react to you naturally as a function of you following your path. Every time a reaction is inspired by you this is an emotional spike in and of itself, so simply being your natural self is enough.

The infinity superscript (∞) at the end of the formula has multiple meanings of similar theme. Primarily it represents the fact that conversationally you have access to the infinite well of things to talk about when you live in the moment and are unstifled by external sources. You can materialise infinite conversation of value out of thin air and the more you do so the more emotions you arouse. The more you arousing you are the more women will react to you and the more attractive you are.

This infinity superscript is an indication that you will always be on your path and as a result there is no limit to the emotional spikes that can be generated as a result of your taking action and following your path. It also indicates that the longer the interaction, the more rapport that is gained as a function of time spent with a girl, the more attracted she is going to be to you.

The bracketed ‘plus-minus’ symbol (±) means represents ‘a full range of emotions’. The full range of emotions means that as a guy naturally on your path and naturally doing your own thing the types of emotions will be random, unpredictable and solely a function of your actions and your path. Because the things you do are for you the emotional effect you have on others will be wide ranging and subject to personal interpretation.

If all your emotions were to be positive or negative you would become boring and predictable. The emotional spikes would no longer be spikes because they would be expected and boring in the same a cliché movie is boring.

Predictability is not arousing and does not satisfy the second component of the attraction formula. When guys go up asking for a logical opinion opener not only are you NOT eliciting a range of emotions with the predictable questioning , but she gets the role of authority and this leaves you reacting to her. There are neither emotions being exchanged nor do you have high value. The mainstream perceptions of game are actually intrinsically unattractive.

Adversely, if you are true to yourself and act through your own masculine intentions (assuming you have basic social calibration) the sorts of things that you would naturally do around the people you are comfortable with will inspire attraction because it will satisfy both components of the formula.

Think in terms of when you are with your friends, family, or a situation where you are socially comfortable and unstifled. You will probably do things that result in a combination of things that both irritate or entertain others. The things that entertain you can make others laugh while they could make others annoyed. In both cases you are arousing emotions.

If you don’t do things (take actions) with bad intentions you are unapologetic. Because you are unapologetic when something you do elicits a bad emotion it’s normal that you will defend your actions to maintain your value. This is likely to arouse even more emotions.

Sometimes we all overstep our bounds and do irritate people or hurt someone’s feelings. A man living in the present who is responsive will possess empathy. Even if a guy has irritated or upset someone if he possesses empathy he can respond quickly and accordingly and can maintain his value in these situations.

He can deal with or amend the situation without giving away his power. Although he might have done the wrong thing, he takes responsibility and corrects it. If you are a man who knows who he is and are focused on your path this is not an uncommon occurrence because people will always be reacting to you.

This is responsivity and an extremely attractive trait of a guy with natural game. After all, even if he did do something wrong, he didn’t intend it to be wrong, so instead of being all sorry and adopting a victim mentality he is the first to respond, take responsibility and make things right. All throughout, people are still reacting to him.

Think about the context of the in-set ‘fuck up’ (which usually is only a self imposed perception of fuck up). Maybe you did do something wrong. If you are present enough to be responsive, deal with and amend the situation you can maintain and amplify attraction.

Naturally, guys are anything but perfect. Realising that you don’t have to be perfect to get girls is very liberating.

Naturally attractive guys realise that social perfection is impossible, so they don’t bother trying to be perfect. They are indifferent.

When you get really socially indifferent you do stupid things just to entertain yourself.

Taking risks allows you to freedom to fuck up amend situations all the time and give you great opportunities to amplify attraction. Realising that you don’t have to walk the ‘pickup tight rope’ is a very liberating feeling as well and puts the fun back into going out and chasing girls.

Let me go back to something very important stated above, being your natural self is enough.

Come into alignment with your natural self and you will be enough when you are in alignment with the man you are. When you ‘man the fuck up’

To further support this idea think about how, as a guy, your attention(your reticular activation system) is always on the lookout for something you perceive as attractive. This is the same for women.

In contrast to men they are scanning their radars for behavioural traits. Namely those naturally masculine behavioural traits listed above. A lot of guys act like a chode with their ‘impress the girls ego’ or self sabotage by second guessing the things they say and don’t trust in their natural faculties in the present.

If you give a girl the option she’s going to go out of her way to perceive you they way she hopes you to be. This is the nature of looking for something attractive.

In an effort to make the transition from the average socially conditioned guy to the naturally attractive sexworthy guy it can certainly be useful to take on the actions of the sexworthy guy and do things consciously that a ‘natural’ would do unconsciously(naturally) to begin to realign your internal compass with your natural state.

Below is a list of behavioural traits that you can implement to mimic an alpha man while you are still internally unsure of yourself and more reactive to others than they are to you.

Even though you might still harbour the ‘chode ego’ implementing these actions will move you towards the some of the habits of a naturally attractive guy. These are behaviours that naturally attractive guys do unconsciously-competently.
Natural emotional derivatives from a guy acting in line with his own intentions include any combination of the following examples plus more:
• Fun
• Excitement
• Thrills
• Uncertainty
• Affection
• Fear of loss
• Unpredictability
• Decisiveness
• Adventure
• Danger
• Comfort
• Affection
• Admiration
• Anticipation

By implementing emotions consciously-competently with time and calibration you will learn to execute naturally attractive behavioural traits unconsciously-competently. Combine this with genuine indifference and you will achieve natural attraction. See the self actualisation learning cycle diagram below.

Below is a list of emotion eliciting things you can do to get girls reacting to you and will probably simultaneously entertain you. These actions are best served as actions of impression, not expression.

**Note: this will not get you the girls it will only inspire attraction in girls. Attraction combined with escalation is necessary to close**

• Teasing
• Sexual misinterpretation
• Cold reading
• Compliance ladders
• Verbal and physical push pull
• Using the phrase ‘let’s play a game’
• Nicknames
• Qualification
• Anomaly effect
• Teaching something
• Take aways
• Extreme multiple threading
• Elastic snap back
• Game and gimmicks
• Sexual innuendo
• Shock and awe
• ‘Us versus the world’ conspiracies
• Plot lines
• Emotional rapport
• Beating congruence tests
• Physical communication and leading
• Frame controlling
• Using the word ‘babe’
• Verbal rhythm
• Emotional content of your language
• Eye contact and intensity
• Story telling style.
• Many others

To mimic the attractive actions of a naturally attractive guy is to practise the habits that are suppressed within you. In the beginning you will come across as though you are trying to be cooler than you really are, which is a form of ego. The cooler actions will be incongruent with the not so cool ‘socially conditioned chode ego’ place you are coming from internally.

Usually when making the transition from socially conditioned beta male to naturally attractive alpha male the execution of words and actions can seem jolty and forced.

Think of aligning alpha actions to an alpha headspace like learning to play the guitar. At first your actions and your mind won’t have the neural framework to properly communicate, but with repetition they the neural frame work will grow strong like a muscle. In the case of learning the habits of guitar, the skill becomes what people call ‘second nature’.

In the case of learning something in order to realign with and reveal natural traits that have otherwise been suppressed by a ‘chode ego’ could be called realigning with something that is ‘first nature’

The seduction industry incorrectly teaches a lot of game skills that appeal to the average guy’s ego. Ideally skills should be taught as a structural framework to allow beta guys to learn and internalise the traits and characteristics of alpha guys through habituation.

Understand that if you consciously implement alpha traits you will originally come from a place lower value and consciously implemented alpha traits will be like training wheels. For the most part the traits won’t come off smoothly to begin with but with field experience you will develop calibration and social savvy.

When you first start off learning game you will be socially inexperienced and emotionally reactive to most interactions. You will most likely partially define yourself in terms of external feedback because you will still have the ‘chode ego’ and you will tend to take things personally. If this happens think of it as eroding the ego away and allowing the naturally attractive guy to come through.

With enough field time you will begin to care less about the interaction than the girls do, realise that there is no predictable pattern as to what will ‘work or not work’ and begin going to field for yourself instead of for the girls anyone else.

When you make this shift, you stop going out for the girls and you start going out for you and your own purposes. You take responsibility for yourself and your reality as a man and you know exactly who you are. You have spoken to enough girls to realise that you are the only common denominator in your life.

Once you experience this indifference threshold in real life a few things happen.

You become internally centred and you genuinely give value to yourself and your path more than those of others. You do things purely to express yourself because you realise it is impossible to consistently impress people the way you intend to. You do more creative and outlandish things to entertain yourself because with field experience you have gained social intuition that makes things that used to be new and exciting actually boring and predictable.

You discontinue to ‘give a fuck’.

You let go, you become more indifferent than the girls you talk to, you are the highest value person in your reality.

Once you breach this indifference threshold you couple higher value with the range of emotions

Higher value plus a range of emotions makes you naturally attractive.

Consciously implementing these emotion eliciting behavioural traits to habituates natural attraction. With this process comes a whole other level of emotional spiking. But to graduate to another level again you can learn to establish high value by consciously implementing high value communication styles.

In the case of aligning your communication skills to the suppressed naturally attractive guy inside of you it is also a case of not learning a second nature skill, but realigning with your first nature.

It’s important to understand that the way you communicate elicits a polarised value response.

For example, if you address someone communicating low value then you put them in a position to communicate high value right back at you. Contrastingly, if you address someone communicating high value you elicit an autopilot response of subordinate value. People are always pinging, especially if they are less self assured of themselves than a guy who knows ‘who he is’.

If two people communicate at each other with high value it can be an aggressive situation like two guys shouting face to face. Usually one will step up more aggressively or one will back down and a value polarisation is established. If both people are communicating trying for rapport like the weird way they talk in the Brady Bunch family then it’s just fucken weird. Communication polarisation is always established in an interaction, sometimes after a short frame battle, to establish social order.

An article called ‘high value communication skills that inspire subordinate responses; communication skills that will make you attractive’ coming soon.

Communication skills that can be consciously implemented to mimic the high value communication styles of the naturally attractive guy include but are not limited to the following.

• Voice tonality
• Verbal sequencing
• Posturing
• Proximity to others
• Charisma
• Physical expression and communication styles
• Facial expressions
• Smiling
• Frame control
• Physical communication and leading

In the same way that implementing naturally attractive actions will move you closer to aligning your internal compass with your natural self, consciously taking on attractive communication skills will leave you with habits that aren’t second nature skills, but will realign you with your nature and render you a naturally attractive guy.

Realise though, at first these communication skills won’t be smooth and there will be incongruence between the way you are communicating and where you are coming from internally. This is normal during the self actualisation process. But remember, during the transitional time of incongruence every congruence test you get gives you an opportunity to consolidate your progression to elite congruence as opposed to regressing back to beta male ‘chode ego’.

While making the transition from beta male to alpha male – from unattractive to naturally attractive – when you interact with people it will be like you are trying to be natural guy but the remnants of the beta guy will be showing through. So when you talk to girls you will get lots of tests as they try to figure out which one it is.

Consciously implementing alpha behaviours, mindsets and communication skills draws you closer to the reality and congruence with the alpha man inside you. Your naturally attractive self.

Every time your congruence is tested you have an opportunity to move closer to the alpha reality or further away from it.

When girls interact with a man in a beta-to-alpha transitional phase they will experience a conflict between their emotional intuition and what they are seeing and hearing.

On the one hand they will be getting a gut feeling about what sort of guy you are (but probably won’t trust it totally as people generally only go on words and actions as opposed to emotional communication in a socially conditioned world). On the other hand you will be acting and saying things that communicate you are a different type of guy to what they are sensing. They will automatically and unconsciously test you to try and figure out if you are what they are looking for or not.

Beat the congruence test and move towards the place of natural attraction. Eject or fail the test and fail to clean up the mess you make dealing with it and you will have you regressed back towards beta male ‘pretending to be a chode ego’ status.

Remember though, the girls are hoping that you will pass the test because they are on the lookout for a man of value who is rare.

When you do get these tests it is a golden opportunity to shed the beta reality and come into closer congruence with the alpha reality. Pass the test and you get closer to aligning your actions with the alpha born inside of you. Fail the test and you confirm the chode socially conditioned beta reality.

Passing tests at first might require some conscious recognition and decision making, but with each successful execution you get closer to mastering natural game and coming back into alignment with your natural self.

Therefore, passing a congruence test is a natural game DHV. You are presented with an opportunity to demonstrate that you are either alpha or beta. Pass it and DHV is communicated. Fail it and DLV is communicated.

In classic game DHV’s were a specific thing you would do in order to show a girl that you’re a ‘special guy’ to compensate for the fact that you don’t feel you are good enough for the girl to begin with.

Nowadays you don’t need to especially deploy a DHV because you live and talk to girls under the premise and frame that you have everything that you will ever need to be attractive just as you are because you know what it means to ‘man the fuck up’.

If there is any doubt that you are a high value guy she will try to call you on things to quickly figure out what is going on. These tests provide your opportunity to show your value. You will be unreactive to the girls and their tests and as a result they will react to you.

“50% of natural game is player in congruence tests.”

When you get really good at the unreativeness of natural game you can deliberately call girls mingers and go for make outs wearing stupid hats in an effort to get the girl to immediately test you. In giving her a reason to test you it provides an opportunity to very quickly and overtly demonstrate what sort of guy you are and as a result you inspire attraction. This is called ‘deliberate illogicality’ and is another article currently being formulated.

An article on growing your natural game by reinforcing it through congruence tests and passing/not reacting to them is another massive skill set in and of itself and is another article currently on the word press. This attraction article is to be the mother article on going from a beta male to an alpha male and what needs to be done along the way in order to achieve mastery.

A short break down of the evolution in terms of Higher Value and Emotional Spiking is outlined below.

The four types of guys are, creepy, tolerable, entertainer and sexworthy (naturally attractive).

As you can see in the diagram you start your life as naturally attractive as it is your default state and it is the same point you return to when you become fully self actualised. This type of guy occurs twice in the social conditioning-self actualisation cycle so I will only cover it once.

The Creepy Guy.

The first guy is the creepy guy is most usually just socially awkward. This phase usually occurs during the impressionable teenaged years and is involves heavy social conditioning that goes on during the high school years. Few guys get through this period as alpha male and I can assure that few of those born alpha guys will read this blog.

These sorts of guys are usually all escalation and sometimes kinda desperate. Think teenager on a mission to get laid or an adult so frustrated with being a chode he has reverted to full deluded creepiness to get girls. All dominance and all intent creepy guy lacks in positivity and ‘woo’. This guy will usually get a very bad reaction from girls instantly. Ideally he should conform to society before he thinks about learning finer social skills. He is a pessimistic guy and usually assertive with his intent.

This sort of guy is characterised by the ‘bikie’ stereotype. He comes off socially disconnected and miscalibrated, but yet he still gets some hot girls. This guy has this counterintuitive success just because he takes action when most guys in the world never will.

He is Low value and gives negative creepy emotions and is very miscalibrated.

The Tolerable Guy.

The average guy, the polar opposite of the naturally attractive guy is the mainstream socially conditioned guy. This is generally a normal enough guy, he goes to bar because he think he is supposed to, he drinks for confidence and rarely if ever approaches.

He is ultimately apologetic for everything he does with girls. The few times he does talk to girls he will rarely move things forwards because his perception of courtship is derived from Disney storylines. Eventually this guy will get drunk and settle for some socially conditioned women (fat chick) and ultimately be unhappy in life and under control.

Due to social conditioning this guy considers himself to be low value and takes little action, the action he does take finds him outside his comfort zone which is uncomfortable. He has low value and through inaction inspires no emotions. This is the sort of guy who goes through life ‘treading on eggshells.’ He is a passive and pessimistic guy. He rarely gets girls.

The Entertainer Guy

The entertainer guy is where 90% of where the pickup community find themselves. These are the sort of guys who have decided to take action in their life. He has moved away from being a socially conditioned beta male and has made the decision to self actualise.

These guys go out and put a lot of effort into what they say and do but pay little attention to the importance of inner game. Entertainer guys go out and entertain girls with the things they say and gauge their own success in terms of visible indications of interest or disinterest.

Entertainer guys still have the ‘chode ego’ and define themselves in terms of the feedback they get. This is similar to well known entertainers Britney Spears, Lindsey Lohan and Amy Winehouse. When an entertainer is getting good feedback they are on top of the world and feel great, when an entertainer gets bad feedback they crash hard. In the context of game an ego crash can mean terrible state and giving up the game, in the entertainment industry it can mean drugs and rehab.

Because you are always going out looking to fuel and maintain the ego you will always be reaction seeking, reactive and hence lower value. Because the entertainer guy is playing to ‘not lose’ he rarely moves forward. While it’s great that the entertainer guy is getting out into field taking some responsibility for his life he will never master natural game unless he can truly ‘let go’.

The entertainer guy does indeed inspire a range of emotions but is still coming from a place of lower value and feels he needs to neg or entertain to equalise or establish value.

The typical girl response to this type of guy is usually some giggling, maybe some shit tests and after the entertainment is over she’s off to look for a guy who will be less emotionally invested in the interaction than she is. She will go and look for a guy to game.

It’s not until the entertainer guy ceases to ‘give a fuck’ that he will have a chance to master natural game.

The Naturally Attractive Guy.

To master natural game is to enter a headspace where you define your life and your reality with alpha actions automatically. This is the case when you are born up until the point that social conditioning begins.

Back in alignment with your nature you elicit emotions in others as a by product of your own actions as opposed to having to specifically make an effort to do so.

The naturally attractive guy’s strength of reality would rival that of the most socially conditioned or ego validated women. But the causality of his reality is inverse to the socially conditioned. He defines it, as opposed to having it projected onto him. In his reality he is adaptable and has manoeuvrability when an ego based person is fixed in the role they are cast into.

This manoeuvrability that exists due to non-ego restraints means that, in his reality, he is the highest value entity. He instantly communicates high value. People may try and compliment him or destroy him but he will always know what he is naturally at his core and no amount of compliments or insults will change the fact. He is perpetually indifferent.

The naturally attractive guy takes no objective opinions to heart because no one else knows him the way he knows him, and even if they did, no amount of verbal opinion could change his mind set about his physically natural self that literally cannot be changed.

Because any guy’s natural self cannot be altered, when he lives in line with himself, when he mans the fuck up and drop’s the socially conditioned ‘pretending to be a chode ego’ everything he is doing is coming from the right place. That place is one of elite congruence with his masculinity.

When you have these realisations you realise that you are enough when you live in alignment with your natural self. You ‘don’t give a fuck what anyone thinks of you’ just as much as you are unapologetic for the things that you do because you don’t have bad intentions. Sometimes people may misinterpret that you have bad intentions but you hold your frame until they understand.

When a naturally attractive guy interacts with girls it is usually a very predictable pattern.

1.Firstly, the self is always coming through, the set is receptive because high value will be communicated before he even approaches.

2.Tests are given by the girls to ensure that the behaviours they are seeing are in alignment with the core of the guy, his nature.

3. You freely express yourself and inspire emotional spikes. ‘Attraction is a function of your ability to put your personality on the line’ (Tim, 2005 www.naturaltim.com).

4. The set will hook because you are offering value, demonstrating core confidence, your unreactive to tests and asserting yourself.

5. The girl becomes aroused and attracted to you by your freely expressing yourself, moving things forward and dealing with tests.

A typical girl response to a naturally attractive guy will be stifled and nervous behaviour in the same way as an average guy would be stifled and nervous around a very high value girl. The girl will make a specific effort to play it cool, be less expressive, compliant and attentive to you.

The naturally attractive guy doesn’t get a crush. He doesn’t form emotional feeling for a women until she has been around long enough for her to make a lasting impression on him.

For a naturally attractive guy the girls he interacts with is like dealing with someone with a ‘crush’ on him.

The naturally attractive guy doesn’t get crushes and doesn’t see new girls as higher value than him. He realises that it would be self generated affection assigned to a women. He realises that to have a crush or for a girl be ‘his type’ is to appeal to a false ego.
For you to have a crush on a girl is to imply that she has higher value to you, of course once you get the girl the power dynamic changes and you have the girl she’s no longer the rare and hard to get entity she once was. Crushes are not part of a naturally attractive guy’s reality(1).

Footnote1.

More accurately a natural guy is a ‘closer’ first and figures out which girl is the one most worth spending his time with after time spent ‘seeing her’ as opposed to dating her. Because he has no ego he doesn’t discriminate when it comes to closing the deal. The more he closes, the more indifferent he is and the higher value his value becomes.

High value plus a range of emotions equals attraction.

If you are a cool guy she will want to talk to you, if you know who you are and are on your path and have access to your infinite well you will make the vagina wet.

A = HV + (±)E∞

A high value guys knows that because he is purely his natural self he CAN’T NOT be attractive in the same way that a bikini model can’t not be attractive to guys. He doesn’t need to come up with reasons why he has to rationalise and believe that ‘his his game is a 10’.

The naturally attractive guy can’t figure out why his game wouldn’t be a ten.

Alexander~

1. Except n the case of the Marissa Cooper, the character from ‘The OC’. But technically its irrelevant because she isn’t a real person.

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