Getting Back to Basics.

The best are not those who perform the sporadic ‘amazing’, it’s those who execute the basics better than anyone else who are in
a league of their own.

Hey everyone.

It’s been a while. Reason: been hitting it up back home in Australia. And guess what, they don’t have a whole lot of internet here.

Even where I am staying.

And, I’ve been neck deep training instructors and tuning up the natural superconference. Very productive. But right now it’s time to get back to basics.

I’ve spent some time at grass roots level again this week, both as a spectator at a lair meeting…

…and giving an RSD free workshop.

Doing program 6 nights a week and travelling from city to city only hanging with the best I tend to forget that mindset of the average community guy, where he’s coming from and what he needs.

When we as instructors are trying to focus on improving and innovating the latest stuff it’s only really applicable to the best.

While it inspires salivation to those who are ready for it, for the average community guy its waaaaaaaaaaaay over their heads.

But we take this stuff ridiculously seriously and it is the ultimate passion and the backbone of our lifestyle.

So, I hereby present a nuRSD guide for the beginner. Something you can digest right here and now, go out and use that will
orient you in line with the new school mind-set-ologies that were getting massive success with.

This is geared towards a total newbie. And for the more advanced, give it a go. Your ability to replicate the basics consistently will provide the foundations for you to springboard towards the more spectacular highlights this community has to offer.

FIRST OF ALL.

Expression not impression. When preparing to head out bear in mind that you don’t care what anyone thinks of you. Truth is they really don’t even bring you into consideration while they are obsessing over their own image projection.

But it is essential to put massive stock in the way you express yourself. Both fashionably and hygienically.

If you don’t play by the overarching social rules of the social world you simply aren’t in the game. For example, don’t smell and don’t stray more than two standard deviations from the fashion norms of the environment and the context you are in.

For example, don’t dress yourself in a way that’s outside your peer’s reality.

In fact, you can be as good as you want at anything, but if who you are and what you do isn’t in their reality then they simply will not include you in it.

Hygiene is essential. You can have a million dollar outfit, but any ungodly smell with fix your wagon before you have even set out.

You know you would think this is obvious, but I have seen countless guys oblivious to their dandruff, body odour, dirty fingernails, greasy hair, yellow teeth, bad breath and treatable acne.

All of these things are total quick, cheap fixes. No excuses not to have them covered. Furthermore get in the gym. As a man, your brain with trip-the-fuck-out if you are not engaging in some physical activity.

It will not only make you feel like a million bucks because you are taking action but you will revel in the testosterone and endorphin releases.

So, with the very obtainable pre-requisites out of the way: onto the scene.

Think new RSD think emotional communication, think inner game.

Good inner game naturally results from plenty of social and life experiences. Best way to do this of your own accord is to immerse yourself in and embrace life.

You have so many experiences in life that you truly develop harmony with the fact that you are the only common denominator.

Your focus turns to you: you are internally centred.

But if you have never been out, to those to whom this article is directed here’s a shortcut.

Social day deluxe:

In prep talk to everyone, enjoy the banter not for the content but rather the emotions that are shared. Don’t discriminate with people. Give the expression to young old, male female, attractive and repulsive.

Don’t discriminate. If you do, then when you get to that girl of any value you will place far greater value on her than anyone else.

You will find yourself involuntarily communicating massive creepy-assed outcome dependence.

Don’t discriminate. People don’t have types. Your ideal ‘type’ is some ego construct that you perceive will complete you as a
person. Yuk. “Get a real mindsets.”

People compliment you. Appreciate everyone. Like ice cream, it’s all good, you can appreciate all of them, but some flavours you will favour over others.

If I hear one more guy tell me he didn’t close because he thought the girl wasn’t his type, because he really didn’t want to risk losing the girl by escalating the interaction I’m going to be more pissed about it than I was to begin with. These folk are
essentially eunuchs.

I can just see it now, the girls all exited, she finally finds a guy willing to approach, willing to take pride in the way he presents himself to the world, a guy who’s on his path, only to be bitterly disappointed as he didn’t actually have the balls to close the deal.

She is left to thumb wrestle the little boy in the canoe.

(BTW I recently found out that mum reads this blog: hi mum!)

It’s incongruent of you not to escalate. What will happen in light of this is no more call backs, flakes and totally loss of attraction due to your lack of self trust and sense of entitlement.

So before you’re even in the club, dressed neat and smelling good you should have already spoken to plenty of people in your day. You don’t talk to them for them, you talk to them for you, to celebrate yourself, to stretch your emotional legs so to speak.

This is particularly important as you hit the club. Taxi driver, parking chode, store clerk selling you gum, bouncer, line folk, door chick, barkeep and promo girl.

To still be inside of your head after this roster of checkpoints then there is a serious problem.

‘But Alex’ I hear you say, I’m a chode victim, I’m worse than everyone.

‘Shut the fuck up’ I retort.

**argument ends**

Objectively identify that your subconscious is preventing you from moving away from your old secure reality, its holding you into place like adhesive. While sticky, it’s nothing that some applied pressure can’t overcome.

Do you want to get good at this? Yep. Detach and grow. Like a seed falling from a tree. Tough to leave the secure ‘home zone’ you will have feelings of vulnerability initially as you wonder whether you are going to make it.

You will take root and begin to sprout you will commence the formation of your own new reality. Eventually it will be strong enough that it will magnetically draw people into your reality. Some people call this having a magnetic personality.

You become the pillar.

So with that mindset objectively comprehended, your internal centred-ness increases like a computer game ‘level up’ you enter the trenches.

In field every man starts equal.

AT THE BEGGINGING OF ANY EVENT EVERY MAN STARTS EQUAL.

Michael Jordan is not better than the average rookie.

Until he gets the ball in his hands.

His game statistics start at zero just like every other player’s at the start of a game. Just like you at the start of the night. It’s not until MJ gets the ball in his hands that he begins to dictate the direction of the game.

It’s not until you take responsibility for your experience that night that it becomes a productive worthwhile night.

That said, even if you don’t make a move, you take responsibility. You take the credit of chode.

At the beginning of the night, if you even think you might possibly hesitate look around at one of the chodes in the club. Remind yourself why you are better than this chode, remind yourself that you took action and remind yourself that this is the reason why
you are entitled to glory.

First set. Hottest girl you see. This is a warm up set. Can’t expect it to hook right? May as well do it with a self perceived challenge. Nothing to lose, everything to gain. Any result at all is a massive windfall.

The purpose of the exercise is to walk up and offer value. A simple rule to follow is ‘no questions’. Involve people in what you are doing, do not try and engage them. Involving implies that you have your shit going on, attempting to engage implies detracting from their time and energy.

How, as a newbie, can you do this? Talk stories, talk about what you did today talk about your idiosyncratic intentions. But remember that if these idiosyncrasies are beyond your recipient’s reality it won’t register.

For example, a beyond reality idiosyncratic topic is graphic self imposed sex instances. Inside reality idiosyncratic topic might be the world vision child you adopted.

Talk about abstract things. Stories and hypothetical situations. You will find that while in social mood after a day of priming that these sorts of value offering topics will pop into your head instantaneously on a moment by moment basis.

On the approach.

Get yourself feeling good. Think ‘snap’ and bring on an energetic feeling in yourself. A good way to generate this is to bob your knees, clap your hands and force a smile. The forced smile will then become and natural smile as you realise how stupid it must
look.

Try it now.

Feels good huh? Good state is always at your fingertips.

Now, for the purpose of this article, for those guys who literally have zero social experience or calibration I’m going to give you a tried and tested verbal frame work to defibrillate your social life.

And while the verbal delivery itself is very simple the forces at play behind it serve a multitude of purposes.

Good game is a combination of inner game (your state and strength of reality), outer game social skill sets (logistical manoeuvres) and experience (social intuition and calibration).

I have outlined some basic ways of thinking about things and an exercise to get good state, I will outline a social structure to follow that doesn’t require an Oracle level of social insight to understand and execute instantly.

With a breaking rapport tonality your opening line is any one of the following:

Are you guys smart?

Are you guys savvy?

Are you guys insightful?

Do you guys have wisdom?

Are you smarter than a fifth grader?

This opener is called a hook question. Opinion openers are dead to me. Thanks VH1.

The idea of a hook question is to seeking out someone of value to bounce an idea off. If they aren’t smart no worries and no loss. Instant move on.

Next.

Ask another girl.

As you turn away, obviously indifferent to her value as a woman your value becomes apparent much the same way as a take away works.

No chance of a blow out. You are safe. No excuses. Get in field.

For the more experienced if you were to get a non-response or negative answer to any of the above you can respond with a simple ‘good enough’.

B: Are you guys smarter than a fifth grader?

G: Nope

B: Good enough…(plow on)

Usually though you will get a dubious positive response. Then ask another hook question.

Are you guys smart?

If you already have one yes, you will most likely get another.

This is a compliance ladder in and of itself. Also, with both compliant response the girl is investing in giving you smart/smarter than a fifth grader response.

As opposed to a classic opinion opener you will not trip any sort of classic game radars in girls nor will you be coming from a pace of lower value in need of an opinion, you are essentially qualifying right off the bat.

Make note that in any interaction you set the frame in the first ten seconds.

So, with a positive high value frame established, follow by asking a simple opinion opener. For example’s sake:

1. Do guys who drink out of a straws look gay?
2. Do you know where parliament house is?
3. Do you think my hair matches my shoes?
4. How many times should a guy date a girl before sleeping with her?
5. What’s a better job, lawyer or Viking?
6. Who lies more, insomniacs or chronic fatigue syndrome sufferers?
7. Is Brad Pitt dating Angelina Jolie for love or for status?

If you aren’t new to the community you know the value of opinion openers. Simple and engaging. Anything on the front of, or
might be found on the front of a gossip magazine works well.

Thing is, in light of her compliance to the original qualifying questions she is likely to enthusiastically respond. Great, you’ve hooked.

If she doesn’t give a good and enthusiastic answer tease her on her girly anti-smartness with examples such as…

“You’re a fucking dumb slut, get a real chromosome.”

Haha, just joking don’t say that.

Seriously:

a. Hold on, I thought you were smart!
b. Dammit, why aren’t any of you girls smarter than a fifth grader, damned schools.
c. Too much drinking for you guys tonight, intuition is compromised.
d. I should charge your parents babysitter rates to chat with you guys.

Then maybe they don’t reply, next’em, preserve state.

Then maybe they fall back into your frame, give yourself credit for good plowing.

They will most likely give a perfectly smart logical response. Just like any opinion opener. But we all know that logic is the arch nemesis of emotions. Time for an immediate emotional spike. Emotional spikes correspond with above numbered opinion openers.

1. No, thing is I’m trying to look gay to score free drinks tonight!
2. Oh cool, we have a big game of capture the flag planned for after tonight’s bar session.
3. No this hair, **point to groin** I’m pretty slick on my feet, (Self entertainment) haha no I’m kidding, I’m fashionably ‘special’.
4. Oh, ok.
5. Cos as a Viking I can pillage plunder and conquer, but come to think of it lawyer is the same, it just requires study.
6. Did you know a lot of prostitutes have chronic fatigue syndrome?
7. You know probably neither, she’s pretty hot.

All the continued responses are examples of unpredictable thread chopping. These are emotional spikes, these are attractive.

These are examples of deliberate illogicality. Remember, disengage the logical brain and the emotional brain sparks up.

Not only is it deliberate illogicality, it is self entertaining. The sort of things that you might say to make yourself laugh.

The golden rule of natural game: “whatever you feel, she’s feels.”

Furthermore, when you borderline inappropriately reframe the situation you are more than likely to draw a playful shit test challenge. Breese past it and confirm your frame.

High value = attraction.

After these structural opening guides all you need is ANY story to segue into and you have yourself a set. Where you take it from
there is up to you. Just don’t prematurely eject-ulate.

I hate it when that happens. D:

Involve the group with something along the lines of…

“You guys are all sisters aren’t you!”

(Statement, they are reacting to you, cold read, self entertainment)

They will answer.

You continue…

“Haha No! I meant nuns, suppressed promiscuity !”

More thread Iron Chef-ery.

To get a number?

“Hey I have to go…but we should be emotionally close friends.”

There you go.

In short these are core mindsets combined with a basic verbal structure should be pre-product/bootcamp exposure to get you started in field.

And in understanding the mechanics behind the methods you go into field like a gun that has just been cocked.

Diagrammatically it would look like this:

Don’t forget to give her a chance to invest in you.

Attraction is not something you do for her, she has to do it herself. So stop trying.

Hook questions have hit the streets.

Opinion openers are dead.

nuRSD, Helping you to sleep soundly at night.

x o x

Alexander~,

Saad

&

Ryan (Ryan~, Yahyah, Sparky_PUA, Malcom X, Yahyah Jones Bitch)

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Check ‘im @: www.naturaltim.com

Makes you feel warm over there. Like a massage.

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